I am new to this forum. My mum has Alzheimers and frontal lobe dementia? After my dad apparently fell at home and sustained terrible injury to his neck(broken bones) recently I had to refuse to bring him home from hospital back to be with my mum. Neighbours had been hearing lots of arguments and yet when people visited on balance everything appeared ok. Recently they had become worse with mum saying dad is violent and she needs help to get away.
Whilst dad was in hospital my sister and I stayed with her 24/7 and shared hospital visits to dad daily. Her mood was so erratic and I actually felt scared at night as she just didn't sleep and would be walking about and yet other times would be my mum and cuddle and want to care for us. Mum has not accepted her diagnosis and wanted a second opinion. When it came to voluntary assessment she would not go.She has just been sectioned (2) and I have had phone calls from her blaming me and saying she would never forgive me and yet other times will ring and be worried about me and say she loves me and wants to get out cos she is scared.Feel my heart is breaking. Dad has since been discharged and it is apparent that there are not the resources to help our vulnerable elderly parents. I love both my parents dearly but a lot is expected of you from SS and MH and it can cause breakdown of family . My children also need me. I recently refused to bring dad home because mum was unable to care for him also it was not a safe environment to be in with a broken neck xx Feeling guilty and so ill with stress. The whole system of elderly care needs an overhaul desperately xx Wishing you all strength and comfort xxx
Whilst dad was in hospital my sister and I stayed with her 24/7 and shared hospital visits to dad daily. Her mood was so erratic and I actually felt scared at night as she just didn't sleep and would be walking about and yet other times would be my mum and cuddle and want to care for us. Mum has not accepted her diagnosis and wanted a second opinion. When it came to voluntary assessment she would not go.She has just been sectioned (2) and I have had phone calls from her blaming me and saying she would never forgive me and yet other times will ring and be worried about me and say she loves me and wants to get out cos she is scared.Feel my heart is breaking. Dad has since been discharged and it is apparent that there are not the resources to help our vulnerable elderly parents. I love both my parents dearly but a lot is expected of you from SS and MH and it can cause breakdown of family . My children also need me. I recently refused to bring dad home because mum was unable to care for him also it was not a safe environment to be in with a broken neck xx Feeling guilty and so ill with stress. The whole system of elderly care needs an overhaul desperately xx Wishing you all strength and comfort xxx