if you have read my previous posts you will know that we are currently waiting for SS to visit on Tuesday to discuss our options regarding respite care etc for Dad, however as I type Tuesday seems like a long way off.
We are now in a situation where Dad is unable to stand on his own, sit on his own , get in and out of bed on his own basically he requires help to do anything. This has all happened in such a small space of time, only a month ago he was sleeping upstairs , whilst a struggle he still managed it with our help. This morning Dad woke at 6am and had wet himself , Mum and myself couldn’t even manage to get him onto the end of the bed to change him, as although he is 82 he is still a dead weight, this is very frustrating for all of us including Dad who became aggressive and tried to throw his walking frame towards mum and then threatened to shoot himself with a gun, god knows where he will get that from. Anyway we managed to get him into the bed although not where he should be as we just couldn’t pull him up to the top, poor mums back is in agony with the constant pushing and pulling.
We will try our best to get him up and out of bed when he wakes up but it’s now becoming an impossible task, we have a bed.riser fitted and handles etc but they make no difference at all, the strength is there but for some reason the brain seems to shut down during the night and Dad just can’t move. I know there’s is nothing you guys can do so I apologise as there must be people in a worse situation than we are, I just need someone to rant to as I feel useless and can’t bear to see Dad like this and to watch Mum having to struggle like this at her age is horrible . I really do think a care home is the only option now unless SS can provide care through out the night but I don’t think that will be an option.
Have a lovely Sunday guys
We are now in a situation where Dad is unable to stand on his own, sit on his own , get in and out of bed on his own basically he requires help to do anything. This has all happened in such a small space of time, only a month ago he was sleeping upstairs , whilst a struggle he still managed it with our help. This morning Dad woke at 6am and had wet himself , Mum and myself couldn’t even manage to get him onto the end of the bed to change him, as although he is 82 he is still a dead weight, this is very frustrating for all of us including Dad who became aggressive and tried to throw his walking frame towards mum and then threatened to shoot himself with a gun, god knows where he will get that from. Anyway we managed to get him into the bed although not where he should be as we just couldn’t pull him up to the top, poor mums back is in agony with the constant pushing and pulling.
We will try our best to get him up and out of bed when he wakes up but it’s now becoming an impossible task, we have a bed.riser fitted and handles etc but they make no difference at all, the strength is there but for some reason the brain seems to shut down during the night and Dad just can’t move. I know there’s is nothing you guys can do so I apologise as there must be people in a worse situation than we are, I just need someone to rant to as I feel useless and can’t bear to see Dad like this and to watch Mum having to struggle like this at her age is horrible . I really do think a care home is the only option now unless SS can provide care through out the night but I don’t think that will be an option.
Have a lovely Sunday guys