Lisa & Jezzer - big hugs go out to you both at this sad time.
@Luckylisa I am so pleased that you have an understanding boss as so many are not like that.ii
In answer to your previous question, I watched my dad die 18 years ago & tbh it was all a shock. I had only just visited him on the Thursday night in the hospital & he was talking & joking with us all.
The following morning, I got a phone call from the hospital to say that me & my mum needed to come over as he had gone into a coma. We hurried over & a few hours later, he was gone.
I would much rather have remembered him from the evening before, rather than what I saw but it was very peaceful. Even so, I didn’t visit him
at the Chapel of Rest either as I wouldn’t have found it helpful.
With dementia, I think part of you has already said your goodbyes to the person that you once knew at some point in their journey but yes at least your mum had some clarity to say she loves you.
My mum says it to me all the time when I visit her at the care home. She never used to say it to me how she does now - I wonder if she is scared at times but she is safe, fed & looked after.