I have just joined this forum as my sister and I are feeling utterly desolate. We recently put our Mum in a nursing home. She has had Alzheimer's for nearly 10 years and she is only 67 years old.
It's been a truly horrendous decision but her illness was making our Dad poorly - he had a heart valve replaced in March and is a shadow of his former self. We work full time and have families with young children and we just can't care for her in the way she needs and neither can Dad. He was at a real breakdown point.
Mum is unhappy at the home and we don't know whether this is normal for a settling in period or if she will always be like this. We are devastated that every time we visit she just weeps and weeps.
We thought we had found a brilliant place as the care home is great and they even have other people with dementia that are my mum's age.
I think my sister and I just need reassurance that we have done the right thing and to connect with people who have done this and come through the other side.
We are both racked with guilt and full of emotion and while we are both strong women, we are feeling so strange, out of control and at the end of our tethers. Personally, I'm trying to run my business and can barely function I feel so stressed and anxious about it all.
Mum was unhappy at home and now she is unhappy in the nursing home. When we speak to the nurses, they say that she is OK when we are not there. However, she is frightened and confused by what is happening and I don't know how to fix that - not even sure that I can.
Anyone else out there going through this? Help!!!
It's been a truly horrendous decision but her illness was making our Dad poorly - he had a heart valve replaced in March and is a shadow of his former self. We work full time and have families with young children and we just can't care for her in the way she needs and neither can Dad. He was at a real breakdown point.
Mum is unhappy at the home and we don't know whether this is normal for a settling in period or if she will always be like this. We are devastated that every time we visit she just weeps and weeps.
We thought we had found a brilliant place as the care home is great and they even have other people with dementia that are my mum's age.
I think my sister and I just need reassurance that we have done the right thing and to connect with people who have done this and come through the other side.
We are both racked with guilt and full of emotion and while we are both strong women, we are feeling so strange, out of control and at the end of our tethers. Personally, I'm trying to run my business and can barely function I feel so stressed and anxious about it all.
Mum was unhappy at home and now she is unhappy in the nursing home. When we speak to the nurses, they say that she is OK when we are not there. However, she is frightened and confused by what is happening and I don't know how to fix that - not even sure that I can.
Anyone else out there going through this? Help!!!