Nope. We do however have a Minister for Common Sense.Do we have such a political post as a dementia advocate in government?
That was powerful to be sure, and so very true and real for me. As I lost my mother to dementia on the 10th March 2024. I don’t think I can keep watching it just yet, it’s all a bit to real and raw at the moment.
When mum was diagnosed I had no idea what to expect, and I had no idea how much it would hurt her, and me. People don’t understand dementia until they are diagnosed with it, or see a loved one with it.
More information is needed to everyone I believe. So no one goes into a dementia diagnosis blind.
I think you have got a point and that is where the AS need to put effort. Get a dementia advocate or a ministerial post under the Health ministry and then there is an entry point to direct our experiences to.Unfortunately we do not have a dementia advocate. There is the minister for health and social care but they hardly advocate for the sick and vulnerable. I truly wish we could live in a society where the weak and vulnerable are well cared for and not taken advantage of. Where each pays into a system according to ability , that is free at the point of need. Idealistic I know
Fourteen years ago a dementia tzar was appointed, after a few years of reports there is now silence.Get a dementia advocate or a ministerial post under the Health ministry and then there is an entry point to direct our experiences to.
A big ‘thank You’ @canary for this well thought out and honest piece. Outside of this forum I doubt many would read it all but for me it is important that we try to get it across. So, with your permission and anonymously of course, may I copy and post on FaceBook so my family and friends who just see the smiling happy face of Pauline when they occasionally visit and arn’t interesting in even to talking about the constant, which is my role and a difficult one too?I have been thinking really hard about this subject.
Advice, support and care is almost non-existent for people with dementia and their carers. We are hidden and forgotten. Dementia is not "sexy" and the general public are not interested, so its not a vote winner.
I have been thinking about why this might be
1 - there have been many many "reports" on social medial saying about things that can (supposedly) lead to dementia due to lifestyle - smoking, diet, lack of exercise, obesity, not socialising, not wearing glasses or hearing aids, not cleaning your teeth properly, cooking with aluminium and (the latest one) having the wrong gut biomes. All of this sends the message that dementia is a choice and it is your own fault that you have it, so you dont deserve extra support.
2 - there has been a lot of publicity about new drugs that have the potential to help Alzheimers. From what I have read, it doesnt seem to be as clear cut as that, but it has given the impression that dementia can now be cured.
3 - it is perceived as being an old person problem and the elderly are not valued in our society. This was very obvious during covid when there were numerous posts on social media saying words to the effect of - its only old people dying, so why bother with doing anything about it
4 - carers are reluctant to speak out because they dont have the time, but also because many want to protect their person with dementia. They know that the person with dementia will be upset by having the bad stuff highlighted. They may also be triggered by it. So they dont want it "out there"
5 - its good to get the views of people with dementia and have them give first hand experience about what it is like, but unfortunately, (unlike people with cancer or MND) it is only a few who can do this and they are generally in the early stages. They are a precious and wonderful group, but unfortunately very rare. By the time that the challenging behaviour kicks in they are unable to see their own behaviour, the affect that it has on others and they frequently think that they need no help at all.
6 - ten years ago the portrayal of dementia was very negative and it was right to highlight that people in the early stage may still be able to do a lot and there will still be good times. The AS publication (previously linked to upthread) had many good things, especially with regard to language and dignity. Unfortunately, it led to the Living Well With Dementia campaign. This focused on the early stages which are relatively easy and the person with dementia can still live relatively independently. I suspect that it was aimed at people in the early stages who were not diagnosed (and their families) to try and get them to go for early diagnosis. This has largely failed IMO because GPs do not like referring, there are long waiting lists for the memory clinic and also the problem of anosognosia - where the person with dementia is unaware of their own problems and does not believe that they have anything wrong, so will refuse to go to the doctor.
The biggest problem with the Living Well With Dementia is that there was no mention of the later stages. The pictures showed happy, smiley people looking at their carer with love and gratitude. It gave the impression that looking after people with dementia is easy and showed nothing of the challenges - they were all simply swept under the carpet. Yes, people with dementia can live well with dementia, but it takes a lot of support (especially in the later stages) and even then, not all of them can - and some of them are unable to live well from quite an early stage. None of this is mentioned.
There is also nothing mentioned about how difficult it is for the carer. The impression is that having a family member looking after them, or a carer popping in a couple of times a day is perfectly sufficient and what are the family moaning about? That it does not require any additional funding. Many carers have found the Living Well With Dementia campaign insulting and belittling
We need to show all sides.
We have to explain what dementia means and how common it is
We have to show that help, support and funding is necessary for the challenging behaviour, but not make it all doom and gloom
We have to say that, yes, with the right support peoples lives can be improved and they can live well, but it is very challenging to get the right support and will take additional funding
And we have to explain that their carer(s) need support too because it takes a terrible toll on them
Hi @Sarasa you go for it. I think the only way we will put this on the map is raising it whenever we can.One of my hats is as a local politician, and I’ll be quizzing the prospective parliamentary candidates for our local seat about their thoughts on social care when the election is finally announced and pushing the need to address the issue with my party.
Hi @canary ,you are spot on with everything you say. Yes I strongly believe that given the right tools people can have a good period of life with dementia. This needs funding to help with dementia cafe's, dementia day centres and also community transport.I have been thinking really hard about this subject.
Advice, support and care is almost non-existent for people with dementia and their carers. We are hidden and forgotten. Dementia is not "sexy" and the general public are not interested, so its not a vote winner.
I have been thinking about why this might be
1 - there have been many many "reports" on social medial saying about things that can (supposedly) lead to dementia due to lifestyle - smoking, diet, lack of exercise, obesity, not socialising, not wearing glasses or hearing aids, not cleaning your teeth properly, cooking with aluminium and (the latest one) having the wrong gut biomes. All of this sends the message that dementia is a choice and it is your own fault that you have it, so you dont deserve extra support.
2 - there has been a lot of publicity about new drugs that have the potential to help Alzheimers. From what I have read, it doesnt seem to be as clear cut as that, but it has given the impression that dementia can now be cured.
3 - it is perceived as being an old person problem and the elderly are not valued in our society. This was very obvious during covid when there were numerous posts on social media saying words to the effect of - its only old people dying, so why bother with doing anything about it
4 - carers are reluctant to speak out because they dont have the time, but also because many want to protect their person with dementia. They know that the person with dementia will be upset by having the bad stuff highlighted. They may also be triggered by it. So they dont want it "out there"
5 - its good to get the views of people with dementia and have them give first hand experience about what it is like, but unfortunately, (unlike people with cancer or MND) it is only a few who can do this and they are generally in the early stages. They are a precious and wonderful group, but unfortunately very rare. By the time that the challenging behaviour kicks in they are unable to see their own behaviour, the affect that it has on others and they frequently think that they need no help at all.
6 - ten years ago the portrayal of dementia was very negative and it was right to highlight that people in the early stage may still be able to do a lot and there will still be good times. The AS publication (previously linked to upthread) had many good things, especially with regard to language and dignity. Unfortunately, it led to the Living Well With Dementia campaign. This focused on the early stages which are relatively easy and the person with dementia can still live relatively independently. I suspect that it was aimed at people in the early stages who were not diagnosed (and their families) to try and get them to go for early diagnosis. This has largely failed IMO because GPs do not like referring, there are long waiting lists for the memory clinic and also the problem of anosognosia - where the person with dementia is unaware of their own problems and does not believe that they have anything wrong, so will refuse to go to the doctor.
The biggest problem with the Living Well With Dementia is that there was no mention of the later stages. The pictures showed happy, smiley people looking at their carer with love and gratitude. It gave the impression that looking after people with dementia is easy and showed nothing of the challenges - they were all simply swept under the carpet. Yes, people with dementia can live well with dementia, but it takes a lot of support (especially in the later stages) and even then, not all of them can - and some of them are unable to live well from quite an early stage. None of this is mentioned.
There is also nothing mentioned about how difficult it is for the carer. The impression is that having a family member looking after them, or a carer popping in a couple of times a day is perfectly sufficient and what are the family moaning about? That it does not require any additional funding. Many carers have found the Living Well With Dementia campaign insulting and belittling
We need to show all sides.
We have to explain what dementia means and how common it is
We have to show that help, support and funding is necessary for the challenging behaviour, but not make it all doom and gloom
We have to say that, yes, with the right support peoples lives can be improved and they can live well, but it is very challenging to get the right support and will take additional funding
And we have to explain that their carer(s) need support too because it takes a terrible toll on them
I have to say... It doesn't resonate with me at all. I don't think those with the disease feel this way at all (mostly they don't realize the declines) and as carers it may be a 'long goodbye' but this doesn't even touch on the heart-wrenching ups and downs we go through hour to hour, day to day, week to week, month to month and year to year.Just to reiterate our content warning: this advert is very emotive and hard-hitting. If you are going through a difficult time at the moment, now may not be the right time for you to watch it. Here at Dementia Support Forum, we want you to prioritise your mental health & wellbeing. If you think this video might be a hard watch, please feel free to close the page.
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