Day by day

[SeaSwallow]

Oh dear, I have just realised that this was our wedding anniversary- 37 years. How could I forget. When I told hubby he just smirked as if to say, not just my memory that’s bad.
Respite day, a short walk, sandwich and ice cream in cafe, then home to do some work in garden, a perfect day.

 

[Izzy]

Aw happy anniversary @SeaSwallow. Not how you would have wanted it to have been but at least it was a calm day for you. 💐

 

[Chizz]

Well done @SeaSwallow for short notice arrangements for your "perfect day". I hope you had good weather. It was hot and sunny here, just right for ice cream and a walk.

 

[jennifer1967]

happy anniversary @SeaSwallow at least you had a nice day. hes off to the shed tomorrow, thats my best day when he goes twice a week.

 

[Grannie G]

Happy Anniversary @Sea Swallow. ❤️

 

[canary]

Happy Anniversary

Our anniversary has simply passed unremarked for the past couple of years
It happens
xx

 

[Sarasa]

We once totally forgot our anniversary, and only remembered when my husband's sister sent us a card. Glad today was a better day @SeaSwallow.

 

[Eddcorner]

Sorry to hear about your nighttime woes @SeaSwallow, takes me back to an earlier point in mum's journey so I understand how challenging/frustrating it can be

On a lighter note happy anniversary I sometimes forget a thing or two (biggies as well), hmm possibly a lot more so I think you're allowed!!

 

[SeaSwallow]

Thank you everyone, first time in 37 years that I forgot.
But I did have a lovely respite afternoon and it didn’t rain for once.

 

[SeaSwallow]

I was sound asleep just now when hubby woke up yelling my name and saying that someone was in the house. I reassured him, he went back to sleep and I am wide awake.

 

[Grannie G]

You sound exhausted @SeaSwallow

 

[SeaSwallow]

You sound exhausted @SeaSwallow

I am not too bad @Grannie G, I had about 5 hours sleep before the shouting and I did manage to have a bit of a doze after posting.

 

[SeaSwallow]

Hubby rather confused today. He totally forgot that his daughter had been visiting and she only left yesterday. And he had problems remembering our grandson. Then he just looked so sad and asked the old question, why is this happening to me.

 

[Izzy]

It really is heartbreaking @SeaSwallow. 🥲

 

[Grannie G]

why is this happening to me.

So sad. It`s sometimes better when the insight is lost.

 

[SeaSwallow]

So sad. It`s sometimes better when the insight is lost.

I that is true. He has settled again.

 

[Chizz]

I don't want or mean to offend anyone, but why do we think there is a why?

 

[SeaSwallow]

I don't want or mean to offend anyone, but why do we think there is a why?

It’s not me asking if there is a reason but my husband who has dementia. So your question does not apply.

 

[jay6]

It’s not me asking if there is a reason but my husband who has dementia. So your question does not apply.

I don't see it as unreasonable for anyone to wonder 'Why me' whether they are the PWD or the carer. Life doesn't seem fair when you look at how evil some people are who never seem to suffer. It's just a human response even if does seem unreasonable to some.

 

[SeaSwallow]

I don't see it as unreasonable for anyone to wonder 'Why me' whether they are the PWD or the carer. Life doesn't seem fair when you look at how evil some people are who never seem to suffer. It's just a human response even if does seem unreasonable to some.

Thank you @jay6 you expressed this much better than I did.