Hi there. Subterfuge and lies. I hated it with my wife but it was the only way sometimes to get through the day. Otherwise you’re always open to recriminations and accusations. Anyway, the PWD can’t always apply logic to the situation and reason it out for the best. So you have to take over and usually you’re the only one there at the time without a team of people to discuss it with you or your love one. I felt on my own with all the stress most of the timeI think my main problem is the deceit in not showing him the letter and following through all the medical checks.
We've always been open and honest with each other for 40 years, so it's tough
Don’t feel too badly about what you do as you do your best without first hand support or advice.