Hi, I am new to this forum and hoping you may be able to advise me. My husband is 61 years old and over the last few years his physical and cognitive abilities have declined. His walking and balance are poor. Over the last few months this has rapidly gone down hill. His memory is really bad and he repeats things over and over again. He has lost the confidence to drive although he denies this. He is pretty down most of the time, which he puts down to having to shield during the pandemic. He has always loved to cook but he gets really worked up and everybody has to stay out of his way when he is preparing a meal.
I have tried to talk to him about my concerns and encouraged him to speak to our GP but he either denies there is a problem or claims it is impossible to get an appointment. I have offered to do this for him but he just gets angry with me. Anger was an emotion that he rarely showed in the past so I guess this is just another symptom.
I have talked with my grown up sons who are very aware of the problems. We have thought about sitting down as a family, to discuss our concerns with him but we are worried that he may feel we are ganging up on him.
I am not sure if our GP would be willing to talk to me about him due to patient confidentiality but do you think I should approach him? I am very nervous about going behind his back as I know he will get angry If he finds out. Has anybody else dealt with this.? I would be grateful for any advice.
Elaine
I have tried to talk to him about my concerns and encouraged him to speak to our GP but he either denies there is a problem or claims it is impossible to get an appointment. I have offered to do this for him but he just gets angry with me. Anger was an emotion that he rarely showed in the past so I guess this is just another symptom.
I have talked with my grown up sons who are very aware of the problems. We have thought about sitting down as a family, to discuss our concerns with him but we are worried that he may feel we are ganging up on him.
I am not sure if our GP would be willing to talk to me about him due to patient confidentiality but do you think I should approach him? I am very nervous about going behind his back as I know he will get angry If he finds out. Has anybody else dealt with this.? I would be grateful for any advice.
Elaine