I wanted to keep MH at home for as long as possible, but I think I've finally hit rock bottom. My own health is suffering. Some of you will have read the behaviour patterns MH has developed and today he actually displayed violence towards me. For 3 days he has let our dog out and in the end I put padlocks on all the gates. Then I found his bolt cutters and locked them away. Today I heard him hammering at something and went outside to find him trying to remove one of the padlocks. I've told him that we have to have the padlocks because if the dog gets out again, the council will fine us $500. (I'm an expert liar these days)! It didn't make any difference. He got really angry when I said the padlocks have to stay there. I removed the padlock on one of the gates, but later on, I heard more knocking and found him actually taking the gate latch off the post completely which would cause major problems. I said in a calm voice that the latch had to stay on the post. He responded by snarling at me to get out of the way and lunged towards me, intending to give me a good shove. Fortunately, I side-stepped quickly enough, but came straight inside and rang a rest home I've had my eye on for a while. I think it's time - before things get any worse.