Thankyou for your kind words, hope your visit goes well, I know we are just hanging on to the past , but that’s survival! This pandemic has just stopped us from moving on. SSue.
Really don’t know what I am going to do without him, not a good day ?
I really just want to hold her and protect my woman and i can’t. The home can do all this and I would be a fool and selfish to imagine i could give her the level of care and safety they can.
pete
But Peter you ARE doing everything you can to protect 'your woman'. She is safe, content and protected where she is. And, by following the rules - at huge emotional cost to yourself - you are ensuring that she is as safe as possible.
I, too, feel the loneliness and would give anything for one hug, but I do not suffer from GUILT. I know that Ian is content and well cared for. I am jealous of his obvious happy relationship with the staff and other residents who are now his family, and devastated that he only vaguely recognises me. His Care Home has had zero Covid cases and Ian has recovered completely from the TIA that he had - has no memory of it. He has no worries about anything, perhaps I am jealous of that too, because I worry constantly. My heart stops when I see that an incoming call is from the CH, but it is usually just to say that he has tested negative on his weekly test.
What can we do? Just keep on keeping on I suppose. There is only one way this torment will end and I do not want that to happen soon.
Hi Sue. Oh God it hurts so much doesn’t it. And crying can’t be helped. They say it releases tension etc, but I find it just makes me feel worse and once i start, well that’s it.Thankyou for your reply’s , I think that is right he does look at the staff as family and the CH as home, I just can’t bare the thought of him forgetting us and our happy life we had. I feel the pandemic has made it so much worse if it ever could be? I know at least he isn’t crying all day like me! best Wishes to you. ssue.
Hi. Just wondering how you are? Wouldn’t it be good if we could put our arms round one another’s shoulders and just let it all out and with great understanding know what each of us is going through.Thankyou for your reply’s , I think that is right he does look at the staff as family and the CH as home, I just can’t bare the thought of him forgetting us and our happy life we had. I feel the pandemic has made it so much worse if it ever could be? I know at least he isn’t crying all day like me! best Wishes to you. ssue.