Hi,
Its been a while since I've logged on - managed to get my mum settled back into her original nursing home - (long story short she went into one home, CPN recommended another as mum likes to wander, it all went pear shape as second home couldn't cope -they had her sectioned and then I spent a month giving everyone a hard time until I got mum back into original home which is brilliant - so much for professional advice!) During this period also managed to sell her house before bottom fell out of housing market - so I can at least pay her care fees. I thought once I had got through this I would feel less upset at mum going into a home but I know find myself enraged with so called friends and family. People who have known mum for over 40 years just are not interested in visiting. All the neighbours said "we'll wait until she's settled" well that was 9 months ago and not one has bothered to visit. My late father's brother and wife were visiting from overseas and didn't even make the effort to visit even though they had always been close. Mum can still clearly communicate, ok she repeats herself a lot, she can't stay focused on a topic for long, but she still recognises everyone. Why do people act as if alzheimers sufferers are basically dead even when they are very much alive! Has anyone else had this problem? Am I being unreasonable because I just for the life of me cannot understand what makes people switch off this way. I just think of all the things my parents did for so called friends and relatives over the years and it just makes me want to shout. Worst of all is when you bump into these people and they ask how mums is doing - I really do have to stop myself from saying what I think. Sorry this post is a bit of a rant but its just a feeling that when it gets mixed with me missing mum it makes for a really bad day.
AnnS
Its been a while since I've logged on - managed to get my mum settled back into her original nursing home - (long story short she went into one home, CPN recommended another as mum likes to wander, it all went pear shape as second home couldn't cope -they had her sectioned and then I spent a month giving everyone a hard time until I got mum back into original home which is brilliant - so much for professional advice!) During this period also managed to sell her house before bottom fell out of housing market - so I can at least pay her care fees. I thought once I had got through this I would feel less upset at mum going into a home but I know find myself enraged with so called friends and family. People who have known mum for over 40 years just are not interested in visiting. All the neighbours said "we'll wait until she's settled" well that was 9 months ago and not one has bothered to visit. My late father's brother and wife were visiting from overseas and didn't even make the effort to visit even though they had always been close. Mum can still clearly communicate, ok she repeats herself a lot, she can't stay focused on a topic for long, but she still recognises everyone. Why do people act as if alzheimers sufferers are basically dead even when they are very much alive! Has anyone else had this problem? Am I being unreasonable because I just for the life of me cannot understand what makes people switch off this way. I just think of all the things my parents did for so called friends and relatives over the years and it just makes me want to shout. Worst of all is when you bump into these people and they ask how mums is doing - I really do have to stop myself from saying what I think. Sorry this post is a bit of a rant but its just a feeling that when it gets mixed with me missing mum it makes for a really bad day.
AnnS