Hi...my husband was diagnosed with vascular dementia and alzheimers last year,although the symptoms were there for around five years previous.He has been married before and has a daughter in her thirties,and prior to the diagnosis didn't have any real contact with his daughter.On the diagnosis I informed his daughter and she then started visiting her father.Anyhow,to cut a very,very,long story short,his daughter has reported me to Social Services for "abuse and bullying"of her father,and needless to say,no grounds were found to support her allegations against me.As you can imagine,this has caused a permanent rift between us,and some considerable upset between myself and my husband.I have received threats of violence against me by the daughters husband and verbal abuse...both of which are logged by the police.The reason for the post is that I just feel as if I am totally sideswiped in this matter because I do not want to see this daughter ever again and not in the house but my husband asks every now and again why she no longer calls,then gets abusive and saying I am stopping her from visiting....As we all know it was Father's Day yesterday and she called,knocked on the door and spoke to her father at the door,then went away...now she is ringing him as if nothing has happened and it's so frustrating for me,and I know my husband cannot remember what has happened,yet he asks me why I am upset,but then cannot grasp the enormity of what his daughter has done.The consultant dealing with my husband suggested his daughter have her father at her house for a week to give me some respite(this was prior to our fall out)and I am sure she used this time to quiz her father because when he came back home he was very agitated and demanded I return his cash card(joint account)…..oh there is sooo much more I could add,but it would take forever.I do have POA and we both have made wills.The question is...can a solicitor(or even myself)write a letter or take some form of action to protect myself because I have a feeling that now the daughter has contact again she will want to take her father out to her house,where the quizzing will start again,and I do know that if there is a second complaint against me it can be very serious indeed,resulting in my husband being removed to a home for his own safety,to protect him against me(!)pending the investigation.
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