I spent the last few years looking after my mother with frontal temporal lobe dementia, it was the worst few years of my life until she passed away. My dad was living with her and his memory was bad, i sort of kept everything going, keeping my mum at home as this had always been her wish. I had no life did everything for them.
Roll on a year and a half later, i am looking after my dad who has been diagnosed with alzheimers. I am round there helping him to stay independent, despite his memory failing. Now out of the blue come the accusations. I have stolen his house, i am untrustworthy etc he is telling other family members. they all say take no notice, easier said than done, it is very hurtful when all i have done is look after them. I have never asked for anything and certainly not money unlike one of my siblings. If he needs anything i am there, i drop what i am doing to put him first.
I am not sure if i should keep away for a bit? he is getting very aggressive with me and being rude when i call, putting the phone down. Next minute he seems ok. he says he wants to go to a home to be looked after, next he will accuse me of locking him up!
Any advice will be appreciated
Roll on a year and a half later, i am looking after my dad who has been diagnosed with alzheimers. I am round there helping him to stay independent, despite his memory failing. Now out of the blue come the accusations. I have stolen his house, i am untrustworthy etc he is telling other family members. they all say take no notice, easier said than done, it is very hurtful when all i have done is look after them. I have never asked for anything and certainly not money unlike one of my siblings. If he needs anything i am there, i drop what i am doing to put him first.
I am not sure if i should keep away for a bit? he is getting very aggressive with me and being rude when i call, putting the phone down. Next minute he seems ok. he says he wants to go to a home to be looked after, next he will accuse me of locking him up!
Any advice will be appreciated