My cousin (I am next of Kin) almost certainly has some form of dementia. We don't yet have a diagnosis but have an appointment with her gp so are hoping to get some answers.
Currently she is being scammed out of money by phone callers on a regular basis.
She gets very muddled and will agree to anything. We are trying to sort this out.
She is stressed about the amount of money she is losing as she has always been very careful with her money.
To add to her stress we have discovered that she has a neighbour who is making things very difficult.
He decided that he needed to make her garden better for her. (She can't go outside so it really doesn't benefit her) He has been coming to the house on a regular basis doing work that is at best unnecessary and at worst positively detrimental. He has killed her lawn and is now reseeding it at the driest time of the year. He is buying loads of stuff and she is paying him for it. She has a tiny garden and he has spent around £300 of her money.
Earlier this week we called and spoke to him and his wife. We explained that what he is doing is stressing her out and we said very clearly we wanted him to stop.
At this meeting we discovered that he has a key to her house even though there is a keysafe and we specifically told him he shouldn't have a key cut. Apparently he NEEDS a key because he can't be bothered to use the safe and he wants to be there to see what is happening.
We very firmly told him to 1)stop spending her money as she is fast running out due to Scammers
2) Stop doing any work in the garden as she can't afford it and she doesn't need it.
Today I visited and found him in the garden doing the exact job we had very clearly told him not to do.
I didn't speak to him and didn't challenge him at the time. My husband later rang him and politely told him that we were very unhappy about this morning. He basically said he was doing it because he wants to. He then put the phone down on my hubby.
We don't know what to do about this. She may be agreeing to him doing this work, but she is also agreeing to strangers taking £150 a week from her bank account so that doesn't mean very much. She definitely isn't suggesting that the work needs doing.
It appears to me that this is pretty close to being financial abuse but could I report this to social services? Would they be interested?
Currently she is being scammed out of money by phone callers on a regular basis.
She gets very muddled and will agree to anything. We are trying to sort this out.
She is stressed about the amount of money she is losing as she has always been very careful with her money.
To add to her stress we have discovered that she has a neighbour who is making things very difficult.
He decided that he needed to make her garden better for her. (She can't go outside so it really doesn't benefit her) He has been coming to the house on a regular basis doing work that is at best unnecessary and at worst positively detrimental. He has killed her lawn and is now reseeding it at the driest time of the year. He is buying loads of stuff and she is paying him for it. She has a tiny garden and he has spent around £300 of her money.
Earlier this week we called and spoke to him and his wife. We explained that what he is doing is stressing her out and we said very clearly we wanted him to stop.
At this meeting we discovered that he has a key to her house even though there is a keysafe and we specifically told him he shouldn't have a key cut. Apparently he NEEDS a key because he can't be bothered to use the safe and he wants to be there to see what is happening.
We very firmly told him to 1)stop spending her money as she is fast running out due to Scammers
2) Stop doing any work in the garden as she can't afford it and she doesn't need it.
Today I visited and found him in the garden doing the exact job we had very clearly told him not to do.
I didn't speak to him and didn't challenge him at the time. My husband later rang him and politely told him that we were very unhappy about this morning. He basically said he was doing it because he wants to. He then put the phone down on my hubby.
We don't know what to do about this. She may be agreeing to him doing this work, but she is also agreeing to strangers taking £150 a week from her bank account so that doesn't mean very much. She definitely isn't suggesting that the work needs doing.
It appears to me that this is pretty close to being financial abuse but could I report this to social services? Would they be interested?