Please add me to your circle of "friends". It's not a circle I want to be in, but am so glad y'all started it! There's no one to understand except the people I've read on TP. My husband has two crippling issues: Primary Progressive Freezing of Gait (a Parkinson's Plus disease) which was diagnosed November, 2016. He stopped working a full time job just last May, but has now declined to a wheel chair, and a dementia diagnosis in December. I have had to hire a sitter 3 days a week as a I work full time. I have 3 grown sons, one lives in town. He has two daughters who live 2 hours away and one comes to visit every Thursday while the other doesn't contribute much. Strangely, it's the one who comes who adds additional stress to my situation. I sent a text to all the children a few weekends ago with an update of what had happened in the past 4 days: fell out of bed (for the 4th time), napping at 5:30PM, falling more and I'm not able to get him up, etc. That daughter demanded I get him to a hospital! Duh, this is what he does. This is what is diagnosis is about. She is insistent he attend an inpatient rehab hospital for seven days in her town!!??? I'm so worried about him being alone in a hospital room with the dementia. So, I'm learning not to give updates to her. I realize all I want to hear from someone is "I hear you Sista!" but from her, I get push back and I feel like I'm wrong in complaining. (She says stuff like: "Of course, he's frustrated, you would be too." and "I haven't noticed that trait in him.") So I'm going to tell TP my latest heart ache. I took him to the grocery on Easter Sunday since we hadn't been out or had company all weekend. He rides in the scooters they provide. Well, he ran into a bread table and all the loaves fell on the floor. When we got to a table of wines I had to remind him to drive carefully. I caught myself having to say more than once (like a mother to a child), "Stop. Stop Stop." Sigh. I guess he can no longer drive around the grocery. (He hasn't been allowed to drive a car since September.) When we got home, he was quite sullen so I suspect he also knows that. He also finally verbalized his pain. He used to say he didn't want to retire and die as quite a few of our friends did. Well, he said he retired and look what happened.
Deep breath. This is my first post on TP. I have been reading awhile. Thank you for being there.
Deep breath. This is my first post on TP. I have been reading awhile. Thank you for being there.