Can I ... Should I?
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My mum bleaches cups too! As long as they are washed/well rinsed afterward it's fine. It's when they are taken out of the bleach solution, and put away immediately, without rinsing the bleach off that's a problem. Bleach flavour tea. 
Me, I use a little damp salt and rub any stains with that. Works brilliantly.
Me, I use a little damp salt and rub any stains with that. Works brilliantly.
Bleach mixed with some chemicals causes a toxic mixture which can be fatal
, so it's better mum doesn't mix any as she won't remember which she can mix. Certain toilet cleaners are the worst I hope you rinse the cups before use, mum just empties the bleach & fills with tea or coffee
, I prefer a good hard scrub or the dishwasher to remove the stains , better for my insides Bleach mixed with some chemicals causes a toxic mixture which can be fatal
I hope you rinse the cups before use, mum just empties the bleach & fills with tea or coffee
I remember a story in the news a few years ago about a guy in Germany (I think) who actually caused an explosion by mixing household cleaners when he was cleaning his loo! That was the story anyway. I have wondered since if maybe he was experimenting. After all, the reason for the liquid restrictions on flights is because you can make rudimentary (but effective) explosives from mixing fairly common ingredients, including some household cleaners.
My mum bleaches cups too! As long as they are washed/well rinsed afterward it's fine. It's when they are taken out of the bleach solution, and put away immediately, without rinsing the bleach off that's a problem. Bleach flavour tea.
It's that lack of rinsing
. So now I "warm" any mug with boiling water prior to use
Yes, there were a few stories doing the rounds a few years ago as people tried different things to get a clear loo. The link below shows some if the things you shouldn't mix. Mum would not even think. I know she's reached for the bleach after cleaning the oven
http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/cleaning/tips/a32773/cleaning-products-never-mix/
I know, I know, I know ... spontaneous & Alz in the same sentence is an oxymoron, but I'm going to try
Told mum to get long shorts, T shirt & be ready, I'm taking her out ....I'll take her fleece too of course
I've bought picnic eats, packed the boot with a padded long cushion, water & bowl for the dog, drinks for us & sunscreen. Books & glasses
Now, what else do I need for this spontaneous outing
Fingers crossed we can find a nice place to sit for an hour
Told mum to get long shorts, T shirt & be ready, I'm taking her out ....I'll take her fleece too of course
I've bought picnic eats, packed the boot with a padded long cushion, water & bowl for the dog, drinks for us & sunscreen. Books & glasses
Now, what else do I need for this spontaneous outing
Fingers crossed we can find a nice place to sit for an hour
We wait with baited breath for your report! Hope you have a good time. Now here if you were packing/getting ready for such an outing, you would be putting on raincoats, wellies, packing a shelter for your picnic, and a thermos of hot soup, and folding chairs rather than cushion (cos it would get soaked) and............
just go to a cafe!
just go to a cafe!
Hi LadyA
Well, we found a slightly sheltered spot. Unpacked food, sorted the dog, mum kept on her fleece
We stayed about an hour and a half, ate most of the food , mum dozed in the sunshine & then we came home. She enjoyed it, so she said & she wasn't moaning about being cold, so I think she did
Came home, unpacked & she sat in the garden. I left her sleeping & went in the lounge as I couldn't get comfortable
She took the dog out, so I've come into the kitchen as she's back, dog is barking as she shut him out (by mistake) & as always, I talk to the dog as I let him in ....
WW3 erupts as apparently I'm critisism her about the dog
Yay. A great afternoon dissolves into a rubbish evening. Do you ever wonder why you bother????
Well, we found a slightly sheltered spot. Unpacked food, sorted the dog, mum kept on her fleece
We stayed about an hour and a half, ate most of the food
, mum dozed in the sunshine & then we came home. She enjoyed it, so she said & she wasn't moaning about being cold, so I think she didCame home, unpacked & she sat in the garden. I left her sleeping & went in the lounge as I couldn't get comfortable
She took the dog out, so I've come into the kitchen as she's back, dog is barking as she shut him out (by mistake) & as always, I talk to the dog as I let him in ....
WW3 erupts as apparently I'm critisism her about the dog
Yay. A great afternoon dissolves into a rubbish evening
. Do you ever wonder why you bother????
I think me having a nap is what made her so cross
Ps. She snoozed on the beach & in the garden
Gosh gad you had good weather Sam The heavens opened here with torrential rain,that's why my cousin and his wife stayed for dinner waiting for the rain to ease off.
Well our Priest came and brought communion for Mum and I but after trying to wake Mum to no avail we decided for me to try with Mum later (I'm a eucharistic minister) I just had communion. Then my cousin and his wife arrived ,after saying hello and that it was cold,I'd got the fire on and a heated throw over Mum she went peacefully back to sleep.Carer came at 5pm and at 5.45 we both took Mum to bed where she has been sleeping contentedly since thank goodness. No shoughting or flaying of arms or chatter so hoping it stays that way for the rest of the night,fingers crossed....
Well our Priest came and brought communion for Mum and I but after trying to wake Mum to no avail we decided for me to try with Mum later (I'm a eucharistic minister) I just had communion. Then my cousin and his wife arrived ,after saying hello and that it was cold,I'd got the fire on and a heated throw over Mum she went peacefully back to sleep.Carer came at 5pm and at 5.45 we both took Mum to bed where she has been sleeping contentedly since thank goodness. No shoughting or flaying of arms or chatter so hoping it stays that way for the rest of the night,fingers crossed....
It's come to something when you resort to using the dog to break the freeze
Mum retired to her room to read & ignored me for the rest of the afternoon & evening I've taken the dog out & decided that's enough
So sent the dog up, but he came back down, so I said I'd go up with him for moral support
Managed to tease out a smile & she says she's coming down "in a minute", that was 15 minutes ago
Going to try again now
Mum retired to her room to read & ignored me for the rest of the afternoon & evening
I've taken the dog out & decided that's enoughSo sent the dog up, but he came back down, so I said I'd go up with him for moral support
Managed to tease out a smile & she says she's coming down "in a minute", that was 15 minutes ago
Going to try again now
Hi Rosy
Yes, the sun was out & I wanted to make the most of it, so impromptu beach picnic seemed like the way to go
We'd been to Mass, with a visiting priest, who was a little ... erm ... different he kept saying "come on, let's keep it moving"
We then went & took flowers to dad, mum said she wanted to & I was pleased she'd asked for once, rather than it always being my suggestion
Sounds like your mum is feeling a bit better, or at least less agitated, hope you both get a peaceful night. Hope your cousins visit was a good one for you
Yes, the sun was out & I wanted to make the most of it, so impromptu beach picnic seemed like the way to go
We'd been to Mass, with a visiting priest, who was a little ... erm ... different
he kept saying "come on, let's keep it moving" We then went & took flowers to dad, mum said she wanted to & I was pleased she'd asked for once, rather than it always being my suggestion
Sounds like your mum is feeling a bit better, or at least less agitated, hope you both get a peaceful night. Hope your cousins visit was a good one for you
Mum went out the front while I was out the back painting. I should have looked to see what she was doing, but it's normally pulling up all the grass 2 to 4 inches around the beds?? Looks awful, but she will not stop & I've given up
So as I'm about to go shopping, I poke my head round to tell her ....
She's chopped the climbing rose so she can paint the trellis it's climbing up, no roses there then. She's also decidmated a rose bush I'd been nurturing
I asked her why and got told ...
Why do you keep shouting at me?
Does having a go at me make you feel better?
Why don't you take it & put it in your house ?
Her attitude was pretty much that I should go away, leave her in peace
I went shopping
So as I'm about to go shopping, I poke my head round to tell her ....
She's chopped the climbing rose so she can paint the trellis it's climbing up
, no roses there then. She's also decidmated a rose bush I'd been nurturingI asked her why and got told ...
Why do you keep shouting at me?
Does having a go at me make you feel better?
Why don't you take it & put it in your house ?
Her attitude was pretty much that I should go away, leave her in peace
I went shopping
Aw, Sam. I'm sorry. If it's any consolation it is nearly (well, nearly nearly) time to cut roses down a bit? They will grow back. But bloomin' (Mum went out the front while I was out the back painting. I should have looked to see what she was doing, but it's normally pulling up all the grass 2 to 4 inches around the beds?? Looks awful, but she will not stop & I've given up
So as I'm about to go shopping, I poke my head round to tell her ....
She's chopped the climbing rose so she can paint the trellis it's climbing up
I asked her why and got told ...
Why do you keep shouting at me?
Does having a go at me make you feel better?
Why don't you take it & put it in your house ?
Her attitude was pretty much that I should go away, leave her in peace
I went shopping
) frustrating all the same.
Oh, Sam
I've blubbered down the phone to Margi (sorry), I've drunk a whole bottle of wine & when I went to tell mum I was taking the dog out, she kept her eyes closed and said "ok"
Mum is in the shower, so she was not asleep
Feeling so low, I was crying walking the dog, while baitching at dad for leaving me with this
Yeah, I know, it the bloomin *ing disease. But that doesn't help me right now.
It's so unfair. I really do try to do things for her, every meal, every outing, every day, she is the first consideration.
Why does she keep telling me it's my fault??
I'm tired. I'm in pain. I am not sure how to keep at this
Maybe I should give up & move out. She'll go into a CH &. I'll maybe visit now & then
Sam,
I'm glad you picked up the phone and talked to Margi. I remember a similar call I made to the Alzheimer's society helpline (glass of wine in hand at 3pm, teetering between sanity and insanity).
It does get harder as time goes on and if your reserves and resources are being depleted but not replenished. The fact you are mentioning a CH is an amber flag. It'll unfold/unravel as needs be. I really, really feel for you. And your dear mum. Fooking disease.
Warm hug x
I'm glad you picked up the phone and talked to Margi. I remember a similar call I made to the Alzheimer's society helpline (glass of wine in hand at 3pm, teetering between sanity and insanity).
It does get harder as time goes on and if your reserves and resources are being depleted but not replenished. The fact you are mentioning a CH is an amber flag. It'll unfold/unravel as needs be. I really, really feel for you. And your dear mum. Fooking disease.
Warm hug x
Hey Molly
I'm just struggling today, it's been a few days of ups n downs, lots of downs, more downs than ups. I should be able to deal. She's ok, she can do so much, but maybe that's the problem ? She thinks she can do more.
She's at that, can do, stage. Trouble is, she's doing rubbish. Lopping my plants grrrrr. Rubbish in recycling, recycling in rubbish, mopping the floor & leaving it soaking etc etc
I totally lost it tonight with her being nasty & basically telling me to leave ... like where am I to go??? I told her if she wants me to go, I will, but she'll be in a CH. she's not spoken to me since. Not surprising, as that was not nice, but like I say, I lost it.
I just need some sleep
I'm just struggling today, it's been a few days of ups n downs, lots of downs, more downs than ups
. I should be able to deal. She's ok, she can do so much, but maybe that's the problem ? She thinks she can do more. She's at that, can do, stage. Trouble is, she's doing rubbish. Lopping my plants grrrrr. Rubbish in recycling, recycling in rubbish, mopping the floor & leaving it soaking etc etc
I totally lost it tonight with her being nasty & basically telling me to leave ... like where am I to go??? I told her if she wants me to go, I will, but she'll be in a CH. she's not spoken to me since. Not surprising, as that was not nice, but like I say, I lost it.
I just need some sleep
