Hello my dad was diagnosed with frontal temperal dementia 4-5 years ago, my mum cares for him really well , they live 60 miles away from me and I work part time and have two boys under 12, recently my dad has become very agitated and aggressive which is so scary for mum and I feel helpless! I do go down to see them and stay over once a week I call mum everyday, his sun downing is off the scale at the moment and the memory clinic have put him on a anti psychotic drug he has Been taking it for two weeks but it almost seems to make him worse??!! I have never in my life been so stressed and sad ( and I've had 10 IVF treatments and adopted my two sons and nursed my father in law through Parkinson's) so am used to stressful times but my poor mum is such a strong capable lady and is so tired she's on her knees. They have a great gp, the nurses at the memory clinic are good too but it seems no tablet makes my dad sleep, he sleeps once mum goes to bed. He goes to bed at 7 because he hates the telly and that used to be the time when mum could relax. Does anyone have any suggestions or advise I feel we are as a family in crisis. Because dad is in the mixed demtentia and relatively young at 72 my mum is a very young 68 the respite day care my dad refused to stay for a cup of tea because he was too young and said "it's full of old people in here " . Sorry for the long thread I just started typing and couldn't seem to stop! Thank you to who ever listening and I know you are feeling our pain.... Take care all of you truly amazing carers