I have copy/paste my email to a longtime friend with no dementia knowledge...
Joe is my FIL who I met before my DH...
Joe was born in yorkshire...emigrated to australia
I met him at a local darts match a few months before i met his son, and married him. Joe was my only dad after my real dad died 2002.
this is how it is
maureen just rang, joe is back in hospital
debilitating back, chest pain
unable to walk more than a few metres
intermittant nausea, vomiting
weight 58 kg
gall bladder surgeon to be consulted
unable to take strong pain meds as they will compromise his liver function
shadow or spot noticed in lungs
full CT t/row
joe is saying he doesnt give a toss re liver...just wants the pain relief, but was refusing to go to hospital
needs must...he is in.
now I am thinking he will die before my mum.
I havent talked about mum for a while but since her "turn" she is unable to walk,talk,pee,(on a catheter) losing weight,
she can still eat mush and only has bowel motions assisted by drugs.
morphine patches, and from what I have read (gotta love the internet)
last stage dementia could possibly go for years ..up to 3 if average
well, I doubt my coping abilities.
Jo
Joe is my FIL who I met before my DH...
Joe was born in yorkshire...emigrated to australia
I met him at a local darts match a few months before i met his son, and married him. Joe was my only dad after my real dad died 2002.
this is how it is
maureen just rang, joe is back in hospital
debilitating back, chest pain
unable to walk more than a few metres
intermittant nausea, vomiting
weight 58 kg
gall bladder surgeon to be consulted
unable to take strong pain meds as they will compromise his liver function
shadow or spot noticed in lungs
full CT t/row
joe is saying he doesnt give a toss re liver...just wants the pain relief, but was refusing to go to hospital
needs must...he is in.
now I am thinking he will die before my mum.
I havent talked about mum for a while but since her "turn" she is unable to walk,talk,pee,(on a catheter) losing weight,
she can still eat mush and only has bowel motions assisted by drugs.
morphine patches, and from what I have read (gotta love the internet)
last stage dementia could possibly go for years ..up to 3 if average
well, I doubt my coping abilities.
Jo