Hi there.
My Mum has vascular dementia - and I think, has reached a point where she isn't safe to live on her own any more (how do you know when this point has been reached?). I live many miles away from her, and always promised her, and said, that she could move in with me and my family when it became necessary. I wouldn't have it any other way!
But, I'm becoming increasingly worried about whether it's the right thing to do, and wondered if anyone had any advice? Firstly, when she came to stay recently, she was so confused by the change in environment. It took her a couple of weeks after returning home to settle down. She forgot where she lived and had no idea where she was for a lot of her visit. I'm worried that moving her into an unfamiliar house and village, will accelerate her deterioration...but I live so far away from her, and as her only family, am really worried about her (despite the support she receives from social services of 30 mins a day care)....
secondly, I have a young family - a 1 yr old, and 5 yr old, and a husband who works very long hours. I'm really worried about how I will cope, and about the impact moving mum in will have on the children. On the one hand I think it will be positive for all of us to spend time together, and I want to spend the time we have left - together. On the other, I'm worried about how the children will be affected, ie by mum getting up in the night and waking them, by my time for them being so much less etc...
Does anyone have any advice? TIA xx
My Mum has vascular dementia - and I think, has reached a point where she isn't safe to live on her own any more (how do you know when this point has been reached?). I live many miles away from her, and always promised her, and said, that she could move in with me and my family when it became necessary. I wouldn't have it any other way!
But, I'm becoming increasingly worried about whether it's the right thing to do, and wondered if anyone had any advice? Firstly, when she came to stay recently, she was so confused by the change in environment. It took her a couple of weeks after returning home to settle down. She forgot where she lived and had no idea where she was for a lot of her visit. I'm worried that moving her into an unfamiliar house and village, will accelerate her deterioration...but I live so far away from her, and as her only family, am really worried about her (despite the support she receives from social services of 30 mins a day care)....
secondly, I have a young family - a 1 yr old, and 5 yr old, and a husband who works very long hours. I'm really worried about how I will cope, and about the impact moving mum in will have on the children. On the one hand I think it will be positive for all of us to spend time together, and I want to spend the time we have left - together. On the other, I'm worried about how the children will be affected, ie by mum getting up in the night and waking them, by my time for them being so much less etc...
Does anyone have any advice? TIA xx