Has anyone ever brought a loved home from a care home and how did it go? Mum has been in a nice CH since April. Her general health has improved dramatically and they say she is settled and happy most of the time. The problem is that when dad and I go in to visit as soon as she see us she starts to cry and says how awful it is. This has been going on for weeks and weeks. All we get is how terrible the food, she is lonely, can't sleep, won't go to bed, too frightened.
Now... I know this is not all true, not reality true, although maybe true in her head but dad can't see that. All he sees is that we are paying almost £4000 a month an
D she is unhappy and frightened. He is refusing to pay any more money ( we are self funding) to keep her there and for her to be unhappy.
I can see she is manipulative but my god it has worked and he wants her home asap.
I have no idea how to do this, how she will react, if she will settle or not. I have talked it through with the CH manager who says it is not a good idea but they cannot stop us from taking her out.
Her general health is great but she has Lewy body which makes her angry and aggressive.
I guess my best hope is that she won't settle and he will see and remember what it was like for him before she went in cos it was awful! Then she will,have to go back to CH
Now... I know this is not all true, not reality true, although maybe true in her head but dad can't see that. All he sees is that we are paying almost £4000 a month an
D she is unhappy and frightened. He is refusing to pay any more money ( we are self funding) to keep her there and for her to be unhappy.
I can see she is manipulative but my god it has worked and he wants her home asap.
I have no idea how to do this, how she will react, if she will settle or not. I have talked it through with the CH manager who says it is not a good idea but they cannot stop us from taking her out.
Her general health is great but she has Lewy body which makes her angry and aggressive.
I guess my best hope is that she won't settle and he will see and remember what it was like for him before she went in cos it was awful! Then she will,have to go back to CH