Hello everyone,
As with all that are on here, each of us has own story to tell.
Mine, that will match with many others tells of the seemingly hereditary nature of this metabolic dysfunction.
My grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's early in her 70's which was 20 years ago now.
She passed away around 5 years ago, a mere shadow of who she was.
Now as my mother reaches the same age those symptoms come about in her behaviour, thick and fast.
She lives alone, unfortunately, which, as I understand perpetuates the condition further so her decline seems rapid - can't sit still, pacing, unable to spark conversation, lack of personal hygiene, on occasion moments of physical violence.
The difficult part is being in another country, I moved away as our family relationship was always of a toxic nature, yet seeing someone so in need of help brings me to write this message. I do have a sibling, yet she has 2 disabled kids to care for...
I am at a bit of an impasse as my mother is not the kind of person to accept help. I think she does know she isn't well, but when I've asked her to consult a doctor she takes no action.
On Sunday night she was admitted to hospital having been found unconscious, half in the road by a bus driver. She was kept in overnight, but discharged the following day and referred to the memory clinc (I'd like to know the procedure here, if anyone knows?) She will do all she can to not accept the position she is in having seen her own mother go through the same tragic process. Understandable, but she's not helping herself at all.
I've spent most of this year reading about possible causes of this, what can be done to prevent it in the hope I can better equip myself for the future. Yet, the biggest gap is how I deal with it now, while my mother goes through this, and remotely.
If anyone has any support/advice in how I can try to at least feel like things can move forward, my biggest concern is how she will not accept the situation she is in.
With gratitude,
Davey