I am sooo being battered at the moment. Woke up feeling ok, did some cleaning - and then bam! The nursing home now want a meeting 😭😭 I’m told it will be ok and to go through the care plan, but also about my anxiety regarding mum’s tablets 😬😬 of course I am anxious she has a rare disease and we yet to have a proficient protocol in place for managing it. I was assured it would be sorted and still hasn’t. Not the homes fault - down to GP. So much for me trying to ‘boundary‘ some of these stresses!
Im trying to be positive and think it may be productive but my mind usually tells me meetings are difficult …..I also wear my heart on my sleeve and will cry easily which I know doesn’t help. I’ve always been like that and can’t do much about it. It’s problemmatic as I think it clouds some of the rationale behind what I say 😬😬
The home is good. The nurses and carers are excellent. I don’t want her to be evicted, but I am beginning to think they’re not keen on me just ‘hanging out’ with mum. I love to do that and want to make the most of things.
No-one teaches you how to navigate all this stuff!
From a professional point of view like myself I'm sure you would easily hold your own with these 'individuals' but in a personal capacity..? Having been subjected to a surprise meeting many years ago with someone close to me - I remember specifically a social worker telling me about my 'emotional state', normally I'd wipe the floor with such but felt the old adrenaline kick in and was totally disarmed. It did not go well!!
You know your mum better than anyone in my book, however going on what you have shared they clearly believe in their rigid model of care and the role you must now play. I utilise services in partnership with an excellent community team as and when needed... there's transparency on both sides and it works well that way
but you have to deal with a different set of challenges...
It sounds almost territorial in this CH which is upsetting but not surprising, I wish I could offer up a solution
@sdmhred. Never forget that you're doing your best to represent mum's interests, let that be your armour; it is not a crime to love someone and I hold you in the highest regards in pursuing the best possible care for her ❤