I think what you say @Chizz about not knowing what the year will bring and where our loved one will be adds to the weight and the stress of the season. It is a marker for us caring. We remember past years and what has been lost….and have no idea about The next year…
I have worked so hard to honour mum’s desire that all her friends got Christmas cards as she can just about sign her name ……all the time sitting with the fact that will probably be the last card they receive personally from her. my generation sadly seem to have stopped doing cards as mum gets way more than me and most of her friends have died 😢😢
my thinking is that family members at distance, don’t ‘hold’ this weight like we do….
And of course now tomorrow it will be my birthday….mum of course will have no idea until she is told….and then of course ….I have no idea whether tmorrow I am a friend or a daughter…..which I happily live with…but it is a ‘weight’ to bear…..
But in keeping with lighter moments I love to recall the carer told me yesterday mum appears to be growing in her skills ‘working’ in the home. They now observe that when sat in the lounge she will repeat instructions given so when for example a carer says ‘John, sit down and have your tea’…..mum will then chirp up and say ’yes John sit down and have your tea’ 🥰🥰 we think her work in learning disabilities is in her mind.
I usually take mum to her room for our time together but the carer said sit in the lounge and see if I get to see it as they all think it’s quite cute!
I have worked so hard to honour mum’s desire that all her friends got Christmas cards as she can just about sign her name ……all the time sitting with the fact that will probably be the last card they receive personally from her. my generation sadly seem to have stopped doing cards as mum gets way more than me and most of her friends have died 😢😢
my thinking is that family members at distance, don’t ‘hold’ this weight like we do….
And of course now tomorrow it will be my birthday….mum of course will have no idea until she is told….and then of course ….I have no idea whether tmorrow I am a friend or a daughter…..which I happily live with…but it is a ‘weight’ to bear…..
But in keeping with lighter moments I love to recall the carer told me yesterday mum appears to be growing in her skills ‘working’ in the home. They now observe that when sat in the lounge she will repeat instructions given so when for example a carer says ‘John, sit down and have your tea’…..mum will then chirp up and say ’yes John sit down and have your tea’ 🥰🥰 we think her work in learning disabilities is in her mind.
I usually take mum to her room for our time together but the carer said sit in the lounge and see if I get to see it as they all think it’s quite cute!