Hello, I'm new to the forum. I came across this site as I'm finding things hard with our family situation and am looking for a bit of advice that might help me support my husband better. To paint the picture we are a young family with a 3 yr old, I married my husband almost 6 years ago (2 and a bit yrs after meeting) and we noticed the first real signs that something wasn't right the day we got married. In those 5 and a bit years my MIL's condition has dramatically decinced to the point where she is now - an empty shell - I don't even know the right words. She doesn't talk - there are no facial expressions or emotion, she needs feeding, nappies,taken to the toilet, basically everything except movement which even then has to be assisted by carers. My husband has been amazing - he has set up a pool of carers to care of her in her home - pretty much around the clock care, she has a stair lift, camera and movement trackers etc etc. Basically he's committed himself to in effect running a care agency but for one patient - his own mum. He commutes an hour and a bit for work every day, has a high earning job. Does all the admin and finances involved in running the care and the home etc. We've dealt and deal with sibling rivalry, difference in opinions over care. We are having marriage councilling as we continue to have pointless arguments over the most insignificant things. I found it particularly hard after having our child and doctors suggested I suffered from post natal depression. Basically I just feel that it's all taken it's toll now and I'm looking for ways that I can adapt or change to try to help save our marriage and support my husband better before it's all too late. I'm even thinking that I want her in a care home now but I think it will destroy my husband and in all honesty don't know if it will make that much difference . Thank you for listening Addition: I also think it's important to note that I am not a saint here, i feel rage in arguments, I think if I'm being honest I am angry about the situation, angry at my husband as I feel he's changed in some ways. We can't seem to talk to each other and have a discussion about something where it doesn't go sour. I am very sensitive emotional person and maybe over think thing and take them the wrong way or too personally. I hear the frustration and lack of patients he gets with most things in his life and feel im treated the same way. I also feel like because he's having to take on that parent role with everyone he's doing that with me too.