A sudden physical illness meant that my father had to be transferred to a care home without planning as my mother had also hurt herself and couldn't deal with my dad's symptoms. When he was left there he just knew it was because of his own illness and its having become unmanageable for my mother. He whispered to her that he loved her and was put to bed. In the next day or two he went into a sudden rapid decline and began behaving totally uncharacteristically. Now he's in a hopital being assessed and he is getting frailer, and more confused and delusional. He seems so changed from just 1 month ago. Is this what the end looks like, and if so why was it so sudden - we had no idea he was so near to having last-stage Alzheimer's. He never got to accustom himself to the idea of leaving home or having a second home in a care home, and now it seems that he's not considered well enough to come home. We feel like we have betrayed him. My mother feels guilty for not handling his illness better; I feel dreadful too. What do we do now? He seems to have lost everything and no one seems to be there to help him understand what has happened and what is going to happen. Is there really no possibility of fulltime care at home? Is that just for the very rich? If he goes into an Alzheimer's unit, will we be able to have him home for meals/the odd night or weekend? Or is that cruel?