1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. happyray

    happyray Registered User

    Apr 2, 2007
    8
    bridgend
    ive bean married with my wife for 30 years. ive had alzhimers for 4 years. i cant believe that my wifes got cares stress. because of it she doesnt want me anymore. i dont realy now what to do i feal as if i wasnt hear anymore she would be better of. i dont like her being like she is she used to be so happy like me but now ime realy down i tried 3 weeks ago to finish it all of. but i phoned her to make shure i was doing the right thing but she stopped me i wish sometimes more than most, that i haddent made that call. i think i am pulling her down ive bean to sea a doctor but the things that my wife come out with is tohurtful for me i just dont now what to do . :confused:
     
  2. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi Happyray


    I'm sorry you're so worried. You and your wife have been married for a long time, so please try to be kind to each other.

    I'm sorry you've got Alzheimer's, and at your age you must feel bitter. I'm sure your wife is suffering from stress, all carers are under severe strain, and if you and she are not getting on, it will be so much harder.

    I'm not blaming you, or her, it's hard for both of you. I think you need to talk to each other, and see if there is any way to make things easier for you both.

    Please give it a try. I'm sure she doesn't want to leave you.
     
  3. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,718
    Kent
    Hello Happyray.

    It is very hard for you to have Alzheimers and it is very hard for your wife to see you with Alzheimers.

    I don`t think you really want to die, i just think you need some help.

    Why don`t you phone the Samaritans. They might be able to help you.

    The phone number is 08457 90 90 90
     
  4. Nell

    Nell Registered User

    Aug 9, 2005
    1,170
    Australia
    Dear Happyray,

    You sound very sad and you have good reason to be. But please do not blame your wife. Please blame the disease.

    This disease is very HARD on everybody - the sufferer, the carer and everyone in the family.

    I suggest you give your wife a big hug and tell her how much you care for her and love her. This will make both of you feel better, I think.

    Everyone on Talking Point wants to support you AND to support your wife.

    You are welcome to come here to visit whenever you like. I hope it will be helpful.
     
  5. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.