"Sorry, this is not meant to be a 'woe is me' - far from it. I have made choices to fulfil roles expected of me.... and yet..... there is a childish voice inside me sceaming 'What about me????' - and yes, wouldn't it be nice to be 'me' - not someone's partner/mother/daughter/carer... but ME!!!!!! (Whoever she is!!!)"
oh Karen
That is exactly how I feel!!!
I'm 49,wife of 24 years to Nick
mother to 3 kids (17,!5,11)
civil servant for 14 years until I had my first child and gave up work to become full time mum
After having second child, took up evening work in an off-licence to help pay bills!
Gave it up when had my third child
When 3rd child was 4 took a job working three nights (11pm to 7am)in a 24 hour convenience store....did this for 3 years (tough going)
Changed to 3 day shifts at the same shop when youngest was 7 and I loved it....preparing to go full time when dad fell ill...
Gave it up to look after mum in march....
We were trundling along quite nicely until dad fell ill and died ....now I feel as if I have gone round in a circle....mum is as dependant on me as my children were....
BUT ...its my choice
Wendy
oh Karen
That is exactly how I feel!!!
I'm 49,wife of 24 years to Nick
mother to 3 kids (17,!5,11)
civil servant for 14 years until I had my first child and gave up work to become full time mum
After having second child, took up evening work in an off-licence to help pay bills!
Gave it up when had my third child
When 3rd child was 4 took a job working three nights (11pm to 7am)in a 24 hour convenience store....did this for 3 years (tough going)
Changed to 3 day shifts at the same shop when youngest was 7 and I loved it....preparing to go full time when dad fell ill...
Gave it up to look after mum in march....
We were trundling along quite nicely until dad fell ill and died ....now I feel as if I have gone round in a circle....mum is as dependant on me as my children were....
BUT ...its my choice
Wendy