Thanks
@Woo2 @Bikerbeth @Sarasa @canary xxxx I did indeed do some ironing this afternoon, I only iron clothes though no sheets, or teatowels
then I wrapped hubbys pressies as its his birthday on Thursday and we popped to Hubbys sisters to pick up birthday things while our dinner cooked. We were supposed to be having half hour in the garden with them but as its heavy rain and wind today we popped inside for a bit. We stayed apart and didn't touch anything only gift bag and we sanitised in the car before coming home and washing hands etc. Visiting is very different nowadays. We were talking about mum at their house and I was a bit upset when got home and struggled eating my dinner cos had stomach pains. I thought I had IBS in my late 20s/30s but last 10 years or so its been much better, still odd bouts when stressed and when eat certain things but loads better until just lately it's been a bit more noticeable. Well it can bog off cos I've enough on my mind without worrying about that, ooh bog off lol thats appropriate
Todays visit was ok, mum said straight away when I was putting her new stuff in her drawer that she was going home today. She said it a few times during visit so I just kept saying I don't think it'll be today cos they said might be few days yesterday. She asked if she could come home with me cos there weren't any busses and she didn't know how she'd get home .I told her I was leaving at 12 and they'd not said she could go yet so she couldn't come with me but if they did say she could go today , they'd let us know and either take her, or ring me but I doubted it would be today cos things move slow in hospital, I joked they wouldn't just say rightio --- off yer pop now tara. I manged to convince her to order some tea just in case and let me switch her clothes etc and bring worn ones home saying if she did go home she'd only have one bag to take then.
I'd took some baby lotion in with me today and got her to put some on her legs as they are really dry and flaky. I'd tried fairly often at home and she always said she'd do it later so I wasn't expecting much today but sh did it bless her. We had a laugh about it cos I said her legs were as dry as old sticks and if she rubbed then together they'd make a fire, she said Oy you stop calling my legs old, I told her they look old now cos they're dry but if she keeps using the baby lotion they'd soon be soft and smooth and young looking like babies legs. We were laughing at that and then she couldn't get lotion out of bottle so I took it and was shaking and tapping bottle which sounded like clapping so nurses came to door to see what was happening
Mum asked about my dad and her mum a bit like usual and her houses but she was ok when I told her bits about them and didn't get upset. We talked a bit about my sister and her kids and we ended up talking about a visit at my house a few years ago where I took a photo cos everyone was on their phones at same time, I showed mum that photo and then we were talking about old photos so I showed her some photos on my phone that I took of mums photos so I can have copies of them. (Sis and I were thinking of sending mums box of photos to CH with her as she likes to look through them so I took photos of the ones we didn't already have copies of yesterday so if any get lost or damaged we can print another)
When it was almost time to go we had a funny last five minutes, my foot had gone to sleep from the way I was resting on it so I was stamping it on floor before I got up and mum was laughing, then I couldn't get my coat on so we were laughing at that, I picked my bag up which mum said looked heavy so I was pretending it was pulling me over, I went to put my chair back at end of ward and its a bit of tricky manoeuvre between a bed, table and door and I usually bump into something so I was joking about that saying I hadn't passed my test yet and was only a learner chair mover so we were still laughing at that when I went back to get mums carrier of worn clothes and say bye. I bet the nurse who was sat on ward to keep eye on them thinks I'm a right nutter and should be admitted myself but I don't care if it makes mum smile. Mum and I have always enjoyed silly little things and it's nice to see her smile and laugh a bit.
As I was leaving room the lady from next bed to mum stopped me and said thank you for washing her trousers, those were the ones I returned yesterday that sis found in mums bag when she brought it home on sunday. I told her mum must have packed them by accident cos she had a dark blue pair similar, she seemed okay about it and said there's lots the same cos they're just a plain dark pair, I told her they both shopped at m&s so were both classy ladies which made her and mum smile and she said I'd no need to wash them but thanks cos it saved her a job. I waved at mum and said bye again as I left and they all said bye, so hopefully they were both ok about it .
I had a call from a case manager at hospital this afternoon asking a few bits about mum, just if she had carers already and, how was her mobility and continence. She said they're all of opinion mum not safe to go home and will benefit from short stay in a home for rest of assessment on needing permanent care. She said they were looking to place her in home SW said we were interested in but couldn't guarantee it. She asked what I thought and how I felt about it. I said I didn't like idea of mum going in a home but that's what she needs now and I think it should happen. I said I'been struggling with her wanting to leave when she was at home and that's why we'd asked for a reassessment a few weeks ago from SW and I realised that's what she needs and I can't keep her safe at home anymore even if I was there 24 hrs a day she would still try and would still get out so I know she needs permanent care now to keep her safe. She told me its not an easy thing coming to terms with a parent needing to go into a home but when reach this stage it's whats needed to keep them safe and then I could go back to being a daughter again rather than a carer and know she's safe and cared for.
She said she would put referral in today, I asked if she knew how long it would take but she didn't know, she said they'd keep us informed and said we could call if had any questions or concerns but would let us know when they heard anything. So we're a bit further along but still not sure when it'll happen.
Hope everyone else is ok x