Hi I am new to the Forum today. My 93 year old Mum lives alone in a nice comfy secure flat in Pimlico. She has late onset Alzheimer's diagnosed in June. I live in Surrey and retired last year and I visit on alternate days and stay overnight on Thursdays. It's taken me most of this year to get doctor interested, district nurses to actually notice her weight loss, and all the other stuff that Forum users are already familiar with. Mums flat is clean (I do it) and easy for her to get around with rails,adapted toilet etc. it is also baking hot about 80 degrees which she loves. A lovely care lady comes in for an hour on the weekday afternoons I am not there and makes tea and tidies up. I phone every day. But Mum is deteriorating and lonely and getting frightened about what is happening to her. My brother and sister have died in the last 10 years so she grieves for them. The rest of the family are in Ireland.
My dilemma is this: Mum isn't happy living alone and I have space for her in my house. I have got a downstairs room ready, with bed, sofa, shower. My hubby is happy to help me look after her. But when she comes down she isn't happy here. It's too cold (radiators on all the time but a house is different to her flat), she doesn't want to be left alone here so we can't go out gets cross when friends call or phone me and wants all my attention, wanders about at night. I am thinking that perhaps I should go up and stay with her in the evenings and overnight 4 times a week and come home at midday with carer coming in pm. It would leave us some personal time together without upheaval of our home life. Has anyone tried this sort of arrangement? Would really appreciate advice.
My dilemma is this: Mum isn't happy living alone and I have space for her in my house. I have got a downstairs room ready, with bed, sofa, shower. My hubby is happy to help me look after her. But when she comes down she isn't happy here. It's too cold (radiators on all the time but a house is different to her flat), she doesn't want to be left alone here so we can't go out gets cross when friends call or phone me and wants all my attention, wanders about at night. I am thinking that perhaps I should go up and stay with her in the evenings and overnight 4 times a week and come home at midday with carer coming in pm. It would leave us some personal time together without upheaval of our home life. Has anyone tried this sort of arrangement? Would really appreciate advice.