My mum looks after my dad with Alzheimer's,I go down every day if possible .Last week every day when I went down it was either mum crying or mum and dad crying .She is struggling with the endless questions of not knowing who she is ,when can he go home ,asking for her ,yet he won't believe anything what mum says .If I tell him it's mum and explain his illness too him he seems to accept it for a while ,but by they end of the day he is back down the same route of questions .Mum says she feels so stressed ( she's 87) and can't speak about it without getting upset .i have said this is what it's going to be like ,and isn't going to get any easier for her or any of us .If we take him out for the day it seems to add to the confusion when he goes back home .Mum says no to rest bite and a care home is unthinkable,but she will make herself so I'll ,I don't know where to turn next .Any ideas ?