Mum is 77 and has vascular dementia which is fairly advanced. She cares for Dad (82) who is physically not very mobile and I think he is also losing memory too. Mum cannot / refuses to accept her diagnosis and tries to carry on without making any allowances for the many things she now cannot do. They refuse to accept any input from Social Services and rely heavily on friends and family to help them out. My two siblings and I are not near to them 3-4 hour drive to get to them but we visit as often as possible - usually every 3-4 weeks. Mum has booked a holiday in June which will mean a flight to her destination with Dad. This holiday is not really realistic as they went last year and didnt enjoy it and had to be taken to and through the airports at either end - it was all quite stressful for my sister who literally packed their cases and sort out all the logistics. Mum barely left the hotel and Dad did not go anywhere for the whole week. However they dont remember that now. Mum calls just about every day saying she will cancel the holiday then changing her mind and deciding they will go. I have told the Travel Agent Mum has dementia but has taken her payment in full. Has anyone got any words of wisdom about how to resolve this? It is like watching a car crash in slow motion!