Really not sure how to handle my mums latest obsession.
She is currently obsessed that something has happened to me. If I am not at her house when she expects me to be (in her head not the time I've told her) or at home when she calls ( she thinks the answer machine is me and I'm putting down the phone) she thinks I have had a car crash. This was Friday, Saturday and Sunday ( had carers and the owner of her local shop calling me as she was crying that I was hurt). I had seen her for several hours on all three days as well.
Now she is convinced she has benn sacked. She is 86 soon and worked as a nurse into her 7o's. She now thinks she has no money ( as she has been sacked) and can't leave the house as people will see her and know she has been sacked. I went through it all with her yesterday and showed her bank accounts, pensions etc ( she said she had never had a bank account) and said she was retired like every other person of her age. She seemed happy with that but this morning we are back to square one. She also said she hasn't slept for the last two nights with worry and is looking out of the window all night ( she lives alone in a bungalow).
Any ideas? Should I just go along with it and say she is not sacked but using up all her holidays? I've phoned the carehome I hope her to go into to see if they do day sessions. I thought I could tell her it is her job ( she worked in a nursing home ) and also get her used to the home. She goes to an Age concern club once a week and thinks that's work.
I am really starting to struggle again. I seem to spend most of my car journeys in tears. I hate dementia and Alzheimer's it has taken over my life as well as destroying my mum and dads. I feel trapped and all I seem to do is moan. I can't be bothered to go out with friends etc as I have nothing to talk about other then dementia. I feel guilty all the time as I spend too much time wishing it was all over. I know there are others a lot worse off than me and I Really don't know how they keep going. See I'm moaning again.
She is currently obsessed that something has happened to me. If I am not at her house when she expects me to be (in her head not the time I've told her) or at home when she calls ( she thinks the answer machine is me and I'm putting down the phone) she thinks I have had a car crash. This was Friday, Saturday and Sunday ( had carers and the owner of her local shop calling me as she was crying that I was hurt). I had seen her for several hours on all three days as well.
Now she is convinced she has benn sacked. She is 86 soon and worked as a nurse into her 7o's. She now thinks she has no money ( as she has been sacked) and can't leave the house as people will see her and know she has been sacked. I went through it all with her yesterday and showed her bank accounts, pensions etc ( she said she had never had a bank account) and said she was retired like every other person of her age. She seemed happy with that but this morning we are back to square one. She also said she hasn't slept for the last two nights with worry and is looking out of the window all night ( she lives alone in a bungalow).
Any ideas? Should I just go along with it and say she is not sacked but using up all her holidays? I've phoned the carehome I hope her to go into to see if they do day sessions. I thought I could tell her it is her job ( she worked in a nursing home ) and also get her used to the home. She goes to an Age concern club once a week and thinks that's work.
I am really starting to struggle again. I seem to spend most of my car journeys in tears. I hate dementia and Alzheimer's it has taken over my life as well as destroying my mum and dads. I feel trapped and all I seem to do is moan. I can't be bothered to go out with friends etc as I have nothing to talk about other then dementia. I feel guilty all the time as I spend too much time wishing it was all over. I know there are others a lot worse off than me and I Really don't know how they keep going. See I'm moaning again.