Hi there, I’m new to this forum. My mother who is 86 has Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed in 2013 a year after my father died. Mum now lives with me, my husband and my two teenage children. She has lost over 50 years of her life due to shocking memory loss. She doesn’t know me, my sisters (I have two), any of her grandchildren or our husbands. Her main focus is her parents who died in the 1980s. I have had an ongoing battle with myself for months regarding what to say when she asks me are her parents alive. Many times I told the truth. Mum could ask at least 15 - 20 times a day where they were. Each time I more or less made her cry by telling the truth. Now, I tell white lies when she asks ‘where are my parents’? I say they are away for a few days but we will see them soon. If she says ‘my parents are dead aren’t they?’ I tell the truth. I’m sure this won’t work for everyone because we are all different as are those suffering from his hideous disease, but this works for me. I have photos of my dad in her bedroom and she asks who is he or thinks it’s her father. Heartbreaking. Not sure if this helps anyone, but thought I’d share.