Hi Isabelle, I kind of responded to your thread in a response to saffie as well. Thank you for your advice. I expect if I leave the health and Welfare LPA and inform my mothers social worker I do not want the responsibility of her care then she may just by- pass extra care housing like sheltered accommodation and go straight to residential I believe.
What to do?
I don't know, it is difficult. But even if you don't want to be involved in care that wouldn't necessarily stop them from moving her to ECH first. My mum's SS were keen on the phased approach - try minimal support first and see how she gets on before funding higher care. It was disastrous. By the time they worked out what they were offering wasn't enough and they'd gone through their lengthy process to get it changed she would have deteriorated again so it was never good enough. I am so glad that nightmare time is over. I really do understand how you feel, but if you let the council take control, then that is what they'll do and you might not like the choices they make. I wanted to walk away many times but I knew if I didn't get involved they would continue to make the wrong decisions and put her at risk. I'm not trying to guilt you into something you don't want to do but please be prepared for the fact that it might be difficult to accept some of their decisions.