Could anybody offer advice to me please. I don't have a very good relationship with my mother never have and definitely not likely to. I'm her only child in the UK and now that she's developed memory problems (still awaiting an official diagnosis) it's kinda left to me to sort everything out for her. I think I'm doing the best I can and in six weeks I've managed to speak to her go, she's had a memory test, a brain scan, been appointed a social worker and I'm in the process of trying to get my head round her finances which are in ruins.
My mother's gp suggested in the beginning of this that I should think about getting lasting power of attorney started and initially I agreed but the more I think about it I realise that I'm going to have to be more involved with mother's care.
Speaking honestly I don't want to be involved. At all. What do I do now. Everything I've done so far has been through duty of care not from a loving emotional sense.
So far things haven't been that difficult to organise because I'm quite a practical person but I can sense that this road hasn't even begun at all.
With no thanks and gratitude from my mother this is definitely making walking away easier but I'm just not sure how I go about doing so in a humane way. Do I speak to her GP or her social worker?
Do I tell my mother what I think? I know she'll try and emotionally blackmail me. Saying I'm all she's got and you have to!
Do I? Is it acceptable to walk away? When is an acceptable time? If I don't become her attorney who makes the decisions?
I'm sure some of you will say If you can live with yourself go ahead. It's one of those things that I don't know what's for best.
Me I think in a selfish sort of way I need to look after myself. It feels like ive been
dealt such a cruel blow. Firstly she wasn't there for me growing up yet I'm expected to be there for her now. It just doesn't compute to me.
My mother's gp suggested in the beginning of this that I should think about getting lasting power of attorney started and initially I agreed but the more I think about it I realise that I'm going to have to be more involved with mother's care.
Speaking honestly I don't want to be involved. At all. What do I do now. Everything I've done so far has been through duty of care not from a loving emotional sense.
So far things haven't been that difficult to organise because I'm quite a practical person but I can sense that this road hasn't even begun at all.
With no thanks and gratitude from my mother this is definitely making walking away easier but I'm just not sure how I go about doing so in a humane way. Do I speak to her GP or her social worker?
Do I tell my mother what I think? I know she'll try and emotionally blackmail me. Saying I'm all she's got and you have to!
Do I? Is it acceptable to walk away? When is an acceptable time? If I don't become her attorney who makes the decisions?
I'm sure some of you will say If you can live with yourself go ahead. It's one of those things that I don't know what's for best.
Me I think in a selfish sort of way I need to look after myself. It feels like ive been
dealt such a cruel blow. Firstly she wasn't there for me growing up yet I'm expected to be there for her now. It just doesn't compute to me.