Today mum walked out of her luncheon club and got lost. The club phoned me to tell me that she had gone, they said they'd caught her on her way out twice, but the third time she got out without them spotting her. Mum only started going to this club at the start of the year and the bottom line is she doesn't want to go.
I rang mum and got a load of abuse because she'd gotten lost. Got her to go to the corner of a road and to tell me the name of the road on the sign and went and collected her.
Mum is refusing to go to the club anymore, immaterial as they won't have her. I have rung social services as we don't have a social worker at the moment and I'm waiting for a call back.
Mum won't accept carers under any guise and she won't stay in the club (having gone walk about). She can't remember where she lives more often than not. Home to mum is mostly her childhood home which was demolished about 50 years ago. To add to my difficulties she won't accept any need for POA. I've tried to explain why POA and help is needed, but she told me to f***off.
I really don't know what to do. I gave up work to care for her, but I'm not tolerant enough to do this 24/7. I need a bit of me time, but mum is determined to make sure I have none. I know I'm being unfair and that its the dementia which means there's no reasoning with her, but I feel so trapped. Social services will ring back at some point, but what can they or I do when she's in complete denial and sees no reason for any help whatsoever.
I've not explained this very well, I just don't know where we go from here.
I rang mum and got a load of abuse because she'd gotten lost. Got her to go to the corner of a road and to tell me the name of the road on the sign and went and collected her.
Mum is refusing to go to the club anymore, immaterial as they won't have her. I have rung social services as we don't have a social worker at the moment and I'm waiting for a call back.
Mum won't accept carers under any guise and she won't stay in the club (having gone walk about). She can't remember where she lives more often than not. Home to mum is mostly her childhood home which was demolished about 50 years ago. To add to my difficulties she won't accept any need for POA. I've tried to explain why POA and help is needed, but she told me to f***off.
I really don't know what to do. I gave up work to care for her, but I'm not tolerant enough to do this 24/7. I need a bit of me time, but mum is determined to make sure I have none. I know I'm being unfair and that its the dementia which means there's no reasoning with her, but I feel so trapped. Social services will ring back at some point, but what can they or I do when she's in complete denial and sees no reason for any help whatsoever.
I've not explained this very well, I just don't know where we go from here.