My husband has A.D. so I feel that I have some insight into what is needed in this case.
My mother has a friend who has symptoms of A. D. The lady in question is 91 years old and living in a flat owned by a local trust. There is not a resident warden but they are visited three times a week. The lady I shall call her E has been a loyal member of her local church, has no immediate family and has recently had a problems her leg. She uses a zimmer frame to get about. She is very independant and insists that she needs no help from social services.
E has a lady who cleans for her and this lady also often washes her clothes and does some shopping for her(above and beyond what she would normally do) My mother often asks us to get for E some of the basics,bread,tea,milk etc. Sometimes E does not know where her money is to pay but that is not a problem as we know that at sometime later she will remember and bring it in.
The local church lady and the warden from the trust are now telling us not to help E in getting in these items and also telling the cleaner not to help E with her washing.
As I have some knowledge of how this would affect E if we suddenly abandoned our little bits of help I feel that it would be wrong to do so. My Mother has been her friend for years could not suddenly refuse her help. Indeed my mother is most upset at the thought.
Is there any advice anyone can offer. I feel that the community are letting E down. I feel that abandoning her is seen by some as a way to cause a crisis to force E into a position where she has to accept more help.She is still very aware of not wanting people to take over her life. What a shame that old time neighbourliness is seen as making things worse.
My mother has a friend who has symptoms of A. D. The lady in question is 91 years old and living in a flat owned by a local trust. There is not a resident warden but they are visited three times a week. The lady I shall call her E has been a loyal member of her local church, has no immediate family and has recently had a problems her leg. She uses a zimmer frame to get about. She is very independant and insists that she needs no help from social services.
E has a lady who cleans for her and this lady also often washes her clothes and does some shopping for her(above and beyond what she would normally do) My mother often asks us to get for E some of the basics,bread,tea,milk etc. Sometimes E does not know where her money is to pay but that is not a problem as we know that at sometime later she will remember and bring it in.
The local church lady and the warden from the trust are now telling us not to help E in getting in these items and also telling the cleaner not to help E with her washing.
As I have some knowledge of how this would affect E if we suddenly abandoned our little bits of help I feel that it would be wrong to do so. My Mother has been her friend for years could not suddenly refuse her help. Indeed my mother is most upset at the thought.
Is there any advice anyone can offer. I feel that the community are letting E down. I feel that abandoning her is seen by some as a way to cause a crisis to force E into a position where she has to accept more help.She is still very aware of not wanting people to take over her life. What a shame that old time neighbourliness is seen as making things worse.