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What care help can I expect to get if i had my dad living with

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by deepetshopboy, Jun 14, 2019.

  1. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    hi
    Dad lives alone got cares coming in twice a week 2x2 hours going get him assessed by ss self funding but got less then 2100 in savings seriously thinking of bringing him to live with me which means giving up hes council flat /and clear out hes flat with hordes of clutter and bring hes cat too the reason im doing this is he needs 24 hour care as ue gets upset confused if hes left alone for longer im overwhelmed woth the caring
    Cleaning and dealing with 2 sets of bills carers medication laundry as well as mu dads illness on top of that my neighbour has reported me to the council for not living there at my house im never there spending nearly every night staying every day with mu father apart from respite of relatives once a month o don't get any me time so its not as if im going get that anyway by bring him home I'm not getting anything I’m wondering ofi did take him to live with me what to expect in terms of help /carers
     
  2. Rosettastone57

    Rosettastone57 Registered User

    Oct 27, 2016
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    I'm sure others will be along soon who have experience of looking after a relative in their own home. However my personal view is that I would think very very carefully about this . If you're saying your dad needs 24-hour care then I think the only option will be full-time residential care
     
  3. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,548
    Female
    South coast
    Does this mean that you are living in a council owned rented property?
    Are there restrictions about who else can live there?
     
  4. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
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    Male
    North Manchester
    Apart from any problems with your dad living with you this does not make sense

    If he has no savings and is living in rented accommodation he is not self funding.
     
  5. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    Yes he is as h
     
  6. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    He is self funding with hes savings he got
     
  7. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    Im allowed tp have him live there with permission if he gives up hrs tenamcy
     
  8. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    He hasnt been assesed for funding ive got pow ising hes savings currently to pay for the bit of ‘ care ‘ sorry hope that makes sense a bit
     
  9. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,548
    Female
    South coast
    Are you saying that hes got £2,100 in savings?

    Where are they saying that the rest of the savings are? Does he have property or bonds/shares that he can sell?
    If hes got less than £14,000 in savings then he should be Fully LA funded for a care home
     
  10. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    No hes got£21 000in savings
    I dont want him to go into a care home yet i am not asking about a care home i am asking about him living at home with me if my question was about care home then I would have said care home and yes he will get funding but not full amount but my question was neither about funding nor care home !
     
  11. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,548
    Female
    South coast
    Back to your original question, though. The answer to that is that he would be eligible for the same care in your home that he got in his own home.
    Although, actually, it becomes harder to get help if there is family looking after him 24/7. SS often take the view that as you are meeting his needs, he doesnt need any extra help
     
  12. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,548
    Female
    South coast
    Ah, OK. He would be part funding. As his saving go down the LA will pay more towards his carers.
    Usually the maximum you can expect is carers 3 or 4 times a day.
    Has your dad had a recent Needs Assessment by SS?
     
  13. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    Ok thanks no he hasnt been ive been refur by memory clinic and will contact ss myself just exploring my options at the moment
     
  14. chippiebites

    chippiebites Registered User

    Jun 27, 2018
    67
    Female
    My mum came to live with me and my husband after suffering a major stroke. She got the maximum care that SS normally will fund, that is 2 carers 4 times a day. Mum needed to be hoisted however. That was all the help we got, however because Mum had me with her to step in when we had snow and the carers were struggling we were left to fend for ourselves, obviously people on their own are priority. I would also say SS were not very helpful in funding mum's move to a care home when that became necessary, they would have had to if she had gone into care from hospital. I know you are not asking about care homes now, but maybe in the future?
     
  15. deepetshopboy

    deepetshopboy Registered User

    Jul 7, 2008
    118
    Yea maybe in the future just want to try and make the best choice under terrible circumstances ill ask the social worker
    Its just very stressful having to deal with 2 lots of everything then carers dads illness and neighbours reporting me
    Even if he gets more carers at hes home its still going be worry hassle snd stress
     

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