alan
HELLO ALAN,
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL LOVING, CARING SON, AND AS THE SAYING SAYS, "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND". SO IF ONE DAY YOU'RE IN NEED OF "TLC" , I'M SURE YOU'LL GET IT....
I KNOW HOW COMPLICATED ALL THIS SEEMS AT THE BEGINNING, GUESS A LOT OF US HERE HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU'RE AT NOW.........
AS FAR AS THE INCONTINENCE PART, EVERYONE'S DIFFERENT I THINK, I MEAN IN LESSER AND GREATER DEGREES. FOR INSTANCE, WITH MY MOTHER, SHE WAS INCREDIBLE AT GOING TO THE LOO WHEN SHE HAD TO.... AND EVEN IN THE LATER STAGES, MY MOTHER'S STILL ALIVE (91), SHE WOULD BE ASKED BY THE CARERS IN HER OWN HOME (NOT NURSING HOME) CONSTANTLY IF SHE NEEDED TO GO, ONE CARER ASKED SO MANY TIMES THAT I THOUGHT MY GOD SHE'S MAKING ME WANT TO GO!!!!!!!!!!
THE AGENCY WHO SENT THE CARERS TO MY MOTHER'S HOUSE, PROVIDED PADS AT THE BEGINNING , BUT AS TIME WENT BY, I NOTICED THERE WERE NAPPIES, AND I JUST HAD TO ADJUST MYSELF TO THE IDEA....... BUT SHE HAD DETERIORATED A LOT WITH LOTS OF URINARY TRACT INFECTIONS, WHICH MADE HER STATE OF MIND WORSE...........
THE MOST WEARING PART OF THE ILLNESS WAS AT NIGHT TIME WHEN I HAD TO BE AWAKE MOST OF THE NIGHT AND HAD JUST ARRIVED MYSELF(BY PLANE) WITH MY DAUGHTER AND WE TOOK TURNS, MY THEN 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS MARVELLOUS AND REALISED THAT I WASN'T UP TO IT!!!
AS TIME WENT BY THERE WOULD BE AN OVERNIGHT CARER EVERY NIGHT AND ONCE ONE LEFT HER IN A SOAKING BED AND THE MORNING CARER BROUGHT THAT TO OUR ATTENTION......... SO THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN AGAIN.
OVERNIGHT CARE IS VERY EXPENSIVE ESPECIALLY IF THEY DON'T SLEEP, THEY ARE PAID A LOT FOR THAT......... IN THE END MY MOTHER HAD A HIP OP AND AFTER THAT SHE STAYED IN A NURSING HOME , BUT I WON'T GO ON ABOUT THAT...........
EVERY STAGE IS DIFFICULT, AT THE BEGINNING WITH THE AGGRESSIVE OUTBURSTS, AND YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW WHY TILL AFTER SOME TIME HAS GONE BY , THEN MISSING OBJECTS, BURNING THE ELECTRICAL KETTLE BY PUTTING IT ON THE GAS RING, HIDING THINGS UNDER THE CHAIR, FORBIDDEN STUFF LIKE CRISPS AND SWEETS - MY MOTHER HAS SLIGHT DIABETES! TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE IN A VERY LOUD VOICE IN PUBLIC PLACES AND GIGGLING, WELL ALL THAT IS PART AND PARCEL OF THIS DEVASTATING DISEASE.
I DO HOPE YOU ARE ABLE TO COPE WITH HAVING OUR DAD AT HOME FOR A BIT, BUT AS TIME GOES BY YOU WILL HAVE TO THINK OF YOURSELF TOO........ IT'S VERY DRAINING, BUT IF MONEY IS NO OBJECT AND YOU CAN HAVE CARERS 24X7 THEN GOOD ON YOU, I'D SAY......... ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU ADORE THAT PERSON, NOT EVERYONE DOES!
ANYWAY ALL THE BEST,
mailife49