What am I. Am I a husband or am I a carer. My answer is I am a husband who looks after his lovely wife every day to the best of my ability for as long as I can. How can I be labelled a carer I have not been trained or passed exams to be a carer. A carer is someone who comes into our house to help us and who has been trained to do this work that's not me. 52 years ago I vowed to love, honour, cherish in sickness and health till death do us part and I am sticking to that vow. I have been reading on this site people saying their role has changed to carer but the person you are taking care of is still your husband/partner/wife yes they behave differently but they still need your love and understanding. There is help out there but you have to shout to get it.