Okay, it’s two months since my wife who has Alzheimer’s and Lewy Body went into the EMI section of a care home. I’m very happy with the home, and she settled well. I have been visiting once a week, after my first visit I found that trying to stay for an hour was pointless. I’ve now just stayed for 20-30 minutes, but even this is so upsetting as she doesn’t know who I am, and all reference to family is the same. Yesterday I drove the six miles as usual, went up to the floor she is on, went to her room with one of the carers and she wasn’t there, she was fast asleep in her day clothes in someone else’s room. The carer brought her back, but after 10 minutes trying to talk to her she just got into her bed and went to sleep. The carers said she had been sleeping a lot through the week, so I said goodbye and came home.
Any thoughts on what is best now, I was thinking of telling the staff I’ll ring once a week and maybe cut visiting to fortnightly or monthly. They always ring me with info if needed. It’s so heartbreaking, I don’t want them to think I’ve given up, but I can’t see the use of going when she isn’t aware it’s me.
Has anyone else had this sort of situation, I’m just stuck at the moment.
Any thoughts on what is best now, I was thinking of telling the staff I’ll ring once a week and maybe cut visiting to fortnightly or monthly. They always ring me with info if needed. It’s so heartbreaking, I don’t want them to think I’ve given up, but I can’t see the use of going when she isn’t aware it’s me.
Has anyone else had this sort of situation, I’m just stuck at the moment.