I went and did dads assessment at the care home where he goes for once a month bath..They have a big room with a toilet in and views over the sea and headlands.It is lovely.(I used to work there)If he chooses not to come down he doesn’t have to. It is expensive but that is because he will have continence checks as he has now become doubly incontinent(no overnight care at home) I find even though I’m home on my off days there are still things that I need to do(paperwork etc). I’m dreaming of dad and everything at night and feeling stressed. Dad said he doesn’t ask for much .I agree he doesn’t.But in order for him to be able to go out and have food .I have to organise this.4 days a week my daughter shifts from her flat to my house and I move from my house to mums.(Dad has 1bedroom bungalow).So he technically doesn’t ask but this is what we do.. Now to try and sell him a fortnight respite!!Mmmm!!