Hi all
Dad has mixed dementia, Mum has terminal cancer, but is stabilized at present with medication. Mum is Dad's carer. but is not coping that well, not surprisingly.
I've notified the DVLA today that my I believe my Dad is unfit to drive. I copied my Dad's GP in on the correspondence. The thing is, my Mum doesn't know, I didn't tell her that I wrote the letter. When I tried to discuss it with her a few times previously, she freaked out and said I was selfish and that it would drive her into an early grave if they took Dad's license away. And in the same breath she said that she doesn't think he is fit to drive! My Dad's GP told me a while ago that Dad shouldn't be driving, but wasn't prepared to notify the DVLA himself (GPs have guidelines to notify the DVLA when they are concerned about a patient's fitness to drive, but Dad's GP has not been supportive to our family about Dad's condition, so I didn't expect him to start now). Dad's dementia nurse is coping with a huge workload and is very patronizing to him. She talks to him as if he is a six year old and it winds me up. He deserves some respect and he is still in charge of some of his faculties.
My poor Dad, he loves driving. I know what this is going to do to him if they take his license away. It could make him go down the hill and I feel so very sad and upset. I hate this situation; Dad losing his capability quickly now and Mum terminally ill, with no firm prognosis at the moment. I have no brothers or sisters to share the responsibility and I just wish I could run away...... but instead I'll just have another sleepless night.
At least I know that I am not alone, that you are out there with similar experiences, happy to share; perhaps we should start a laughter forum, where we can share the lighter side of life?
Cerridwen
Dad has mixed dementia, Mum has terminal cancer, but is stabilized at present with medication. Mum is Dad's carer. but is not coping that well, not surprisingly.
I've notified the DVLA today that my I believe my Dad is unfit to drive. I copied my Dad's GP in on the correspondence. The thing is, my Mum doesn't know, I didn't tell her that I wrote the letter. When I tried to discuss it with her a few times previously, she freaked out and said I was selfish and that it would drive her into an early grave if they took Dad's license away. And in the same breath she said that she doesn't think he is fit to drive! My Dad's GP told me a while ago that Dad shouldn't be driving, but wasn't prepared to notify the DVLA himself (GPs have guidelines to notify the DVLA when they are concerned about a patient's fitness to drive, but Dad's GP has not been supportive to our family about Dad's condition, so I didn't expect him to start now). Dad's dementia nurse is coping with a huge workload and is very patronizing to him. She talks to him as if he is a six year old and it winds me up. He deserves some respect and he is still in charge of some of his faculties.
My poor Dad, he loves driving. I know what this is going to do to him if they take his license away. It could make him go down the hill and I feel so very sad and upset. I hate this situation; Dad losing his capability quickly now and Mum terminally ill, with no firm prognosis at the moment. I have no brothers or sisters to share the responsibility and I just wish I could run away...... but instead I'll just have another sleepless night.
At least I know that I am not alone, that you are out there with similar experiences, happy to share; perhaps we should start a laughter forum, where we can share the lighter side of life?
Cerridwen