responsible and needed
Brucie,
My husband is at a much earlier stage than your wife, yet the 'responsible and needed' bit applies to him as much as it does to the residents in the care home - and this is my greatest challenge:
he doesn't need a sitter, or to be taken for walks (although he enjoys that too, to a point), but what's missing most in his life is a job, the self-esteem that comes from achievement and earning money etc. etc. The tricky bit is, of course, that he is unable to follow even the simplest of instructions, unless they are repeated several times, and possibly demonstrated, too. That's too much to ask of most people, even care organisations who charge do not have the necessary resources / staff / imagination to collaborate with me in setting up a fictitious 'job' such a regular shopping trip with someone who needs a helping hand with the heavy bags and would be prepared to 'pay' for this service (I would obviously fund that, on top of the fee they charge). The reason for trying to involve strangers is that the 'job satisfaction' would be so much greater if my husband felt he was able to 'earn' some money, rather than just helping me, which he does anyway.....
If anyone can give my inspiration a little nudge in the right direction, I'd be most grateful!
Brucie,
My husband is at a much earlier stage than your wife, yet the 'responsible and needed' bit applies to him as much as it does to the residents in the care home - and this is my greatest challenge:
he doesn't need a sitter, or to be taken for walks (although he enjoys that too, to a point), but what's missing most in his life is a job, the self-esteem that comes from achievement and earning money etc. etc. The tricky bit is, of course, that he is unable to follow even the simplest of instructions, unless they are repeated several times, and possibly demonstrated, too. That's too much to ask of most people, even care organisations who charge do not have the necessary resources / staff / imagination to collaborate with me in setting up a fictitious 'job' such a regular shopping trip with someone who needs a helping hand with the heavy bags and would be prepared to 'pay' for this service (I would obviously fund that, on top of the fee they charge). The reason for trying to involve strangers is that the 'job satisfaction' would be so much greater if my husband felt he was able to 'earn' some money, rather than just helping me, which he does anyway.....
If anyone can give my inspiration a little nudge in the right direction, I'd be most grateful!