Hi all. so sad reading all these threads but as many say the end can only be a blessed relief.
My mom has had vascular dementia for approx 5 years, maybe a little longer.
After a period of being quite manic and aggressive last year she has really spent most of this year in bed with little interest in anything.
Over the last few years I've had several calls from home/ hospital saying they thought she was passing away, the last one was a week ago. She is now around 5 and a half stone in weight, so frail, just unrecognisable as she had always been quite "round".
The home she is in are amazing and are doing all they can to keep her comfortable and have eol pain meds at the ready following the last non responsive episode.
She continues to eat / drink sporadically but is asleep most of the time and sometimes cannot be roused.
I kind of know that no one has an answer as to how long, I find myself wondering how much more weight is there to lose - does that make sense to anyone?
I'm the only nearby relative, have POA and have coped up and down the last few years. I sent out some messages to family over the last couple f weeks as I thought it was the end and then she's stabilised again I feel like the rest of the family have no idea what it's like to watch this as they never call or ask how she is. I've gone off topic now!
My mom has had vascular dementia for approx 5 years, maybe a little longer.
After a period of being quite manic and aggressive last year she has really spent most of this year in bed with little interest in anything.
Over the last few years I've had several calls from home/ hospital saying they thought she was passing away, the last one was a week ago. She is now around 5 and a half stone in weight, so frail, just unrecognisable as she had always been quite "round".
The home she is in are amazing and are doing all they can to keep her comfortable and have eol pain meds at the ready following the last non responsive episode.
She continues to eat / drink sporadically but is asleep most of the time and sometimes cannot be roused.
I kind of know that no one has an answer as to how long, I find myself wondering how much more weight is there to lose - does that make sense to anyone?
I'm the only nearby relative, have POA and have coped up and down the last few years. I sent out some messages to family over the last couple f weeks as I thought it was the end and then she's stabilised again I feel like the rest of the family have no idea what it's like to watch this as they never call or ask how she is. I've gone off topic now!