Dear carer community. I recently lost my mother to FTD/PPA. For 7 years I supported her through this ordeal, 5 of which full time. Now that she has passed, I have questions, to see if my experience was 'unique' in some way, or if what I consider to be deficiencies (with grave consequences) in how public health services "deal" with dementia, its diagnosis, and treatment, are generalized.
It's 2023, not 1933. I worked 25 years in IT, and I can assure you we have the tech, the affordable tech, to alleviate most of what I describe here. Did you know AI can be used to generate 'family photos' that help patients better understand the passage of time and recognize loved ones? Did you know that it would be absolutely trivial to provide families with the correct tools to not only monitor their loved ones but also provide 'escapism' through entertainment to manage people with dementia? Or that MMWaves detectors cost next to nothing, and can track breathing rate, falls, and visits to the restroom, but - when did you ever see one deployed in a care home?
What are your thoughts? I'm determined to campaign for the right to dignity in dementia patients, and your feedback is invaluable. Thank you.
- To my surprise, I discovered entire threads on medical forums where doctors argue that marker-based (genomic markers) should be prioritized, while others think 'MRI analysis is sufficient". I don't know about your situation, but my mother was never given access to ANY of these tools. In fact, it took a tragic car accident where members of the public could have been seriously hurt for her doctor to administer a very half-hearted MMSE test. Do you also find these technologies are only present in academic papers?
- We're not keeping a close eye on people with dementia. During her entire stay in 3 care homes (one was dedicated to early onset, the second was more nursing-focused, and the last one had more access to medical staff), the decline in my mother's cognitive abilities was NEVER tracked, not even once. I only realized that now because I made a request for her entire medical file. They only tracked her weight! Did you also have the unfortunate experience of being the only person seemingly interested in providing adapted care based on how advanced the illness was?
- People with dementia aren't getting the right kind of cognitive stimulation. My mother was French, spoke only French, and the international care home hosting 70+ patients from the UK, Germany, and France only ever: a) administered group classes in Spanish (pointless, evidently, and very frustrating for my poor mother) b) were seemingly unaware of the benefit of cognitive stimulation, period. In other words, I and I alone had to provide that stimulation, ranging from simple exercises to singing with her or playing a simple game. Did you also experience this? Are you experiencing it now?
- Medical treatment was gravely lacking. I had to reach out to private doctors at great cost to obtain further information on the correct molecules, a difficult balance to achieve. Had I not gone that extra mile, my mother would have never been given: a) SSRIs to manage her very visible depression b) benzodiazepines to alleviate her anxiety c) continued medical support for a pre-existing condition (beta-blockers) as well as medicine to treat co-morbidities. In other words, they applied a 'one size fits all' strategy wherever possible (read: memantine for everyone) without any consideration for her sub-type. My heart goes to people dealing with Lewis's body or vascular dementia in environments such as these.
- Sometimes, doctors group all dementia patients as if they have Alzheimer's, and this stops them from getting the right care. For 7 entire years, I must have dealt with a good dozen 'specialists'. I have a lot of respect for neurologists and the work they do, but when it came to GPs, the same word came back: "Alzheimer's". My mother was visibly shaken each time the word was said, and I battled medical systems day after day for the correct diagnosis of FTD/PPA to be returned. DId you also get the 'Well, it's Alzheimer's', it's all the same" treatment?
- Dementia comes with a lot of stigma, and some people even think about ending their lives, including my mother, who had stockpiles of meds (she was a nurse with access) to do the unthinkable, which was thankfully prevented. Did you also face such stigma? To respect their privacy I will not name them, but several individuals related to my mother immediately 'disconnected' when they heard she suffered from dementia. What could we do, collectively, to end this unfair stigma once and for all?
- My finances are well, nonexistent after caring for my mother. I don't regret it one iota (it was money well spent). But not everyone had savings like I did. And there's this strange, almost surreal understanding from the general public that care homes are 'free'. Let me be crystal clear: in France, a country with an advanced, fantastic social 'net', only the medical aspect of the illness was covered by social security. ALL other costs were charged to the patient's family. This includes hosting and medications that were not 'standard'. In practical terms, the minimum expected was roughly 2340 euros/month. I do know there are advanced social programs that I reached out to, but... I was told that "only total bankruptcy" would entitle my mother to receive this cover. Did you also struggle financially?
It's 2023, not 1933. I worked 25 years in IT, and I can assure you we have the tech, the affordable tech, to alleviate most of what I describe here. Did you know AI can be used to generate 'family photos' that help patients better understand the passage of time and recognize loved ones? Did you know that it would be absolutely trivial to provide families with the correct tools to not only monitor their loved ones but also provide 'escapism' through entertainment to manage people with dementia? Or that MMWaves detectors cost next to nothing, and can track breathing rate, falls, and visits to the restroom, but - when did you ever see one deployed in a care home?
What are your thoughts? I'm determined to campaign for the right to dignity in dementia patients, and your feedback is invaluable. Thank you.