Hi
I've had a bad day, not because of Mum and Dad, they are in respite, starting last Thursday, although it was traumatic getting them there.
It is once again, my brother! He went to visit them to-day, (first time) at the respite home, which is really a great place and the staff, so far, are wonderful.
He phoned me from the respite home and told me he was taking Mum and Dad back to their own house, that is, to the home where they lived 10 months ago (which they still own) and he would move in to live with them and care of them.
When he tried to care for them before, he was buying valium, nothing new for my brother to buy drugs
In 10 months he has never tried to clean their house up or do anything, when they left it, it was filthy. I don't have time to do it. I have taken out of the house, just what Mum and Dad need.
My brother lives round the corner, from their former home and I live 45 miles away and am now caring full time for Mum and Dad
They have lived next door to me in a chalet in my garden for the last 10 months.
To cut a long story short, the respite manager called the police, when we phoned her to tell her of the problem, she had noticed that Mum and Dad were agitated and went investigate. On doing so "she thought my brother would assault her and he appeared to have been drinking" I must admit I don't think he had been drinking. Maybe something else After causing the greatest upset for Mum and Dad, eg putting my poor Dad on the phone to me, very confused, telling him to talk to me,tell me, that he didn't want to be there, then shouting at me on the phone within Mum and Dad's hearing that SHE (me) IS PUTTING YOU IN A HOME. I ended up in tears when, I could hear Mum in the background very agitated saying WHO IS PUTTING ME IN A HOME.
I now don't know if I've done the right thing, in giving the respite home my brother's details of where the police can find him (stupid I know) My parents would have protected him, no matter what, but I have had enough, I think??
Have I done the right thing__ is my brother right __probably not __ I know, Are my Parents OK in respite
Alfjess
I've had a bad day, not because of Mum and Dad, they are in respite, starting last Thursday, although it was traumatic getting them there.
It is once again, my brother! He went to visit them to-day, (first time) at the respite home, which is really a great place and the staff, so far, are wonderful.
He phoned me from the respite home and told me he was taking Mum and Dad back to their own house, that is, to the home where they lived 10 months ago (which they still own) and he would move in to live with them and care of them.
When he tried to care for them before, he was buying valium, nothing new for my brother to buy drugs
In 10 months he has never tried to clean their house up or do anything, when they left it, it was filthy. I don't have time to do it. I have taken out of the house, just what Mum and Dad need.
My brother lives round the corner, from their former home and I live 45 miles away and am now caring full time for Mum and Dad
They have lived next door to me in a chalet in my garden for the last 10 months.
To cut a long story short, the respite manager called the police, when we phoned her to tell her of the problem, she had noticed that Mum and Dad were agitated and went investigate. On doing so "she thought my brother would assault her and he appeared to have been drinking" I must admit I don't think he had been drinking. Maybe something else After causing the greatest upset for Mum and Dad, eg putting my poor Dad on the phone to me, very confused, telling him to talk to me,tell me, that he didn't want to be there, then shouting at me on the phone within Mum and Dad's hearing that SHE (me) IS PUTTING YOU IN A HOME. I ended up in tears when, I could hear Mum in the background very agitated saying WHO IS PUTTING ME IN A HOME.
I now don't know if I've done the right thing, in giving the respite home my brother's details of where the police can find him (stupid I know) My parents would have protected him, no matter what, but I have had enough, I think??
Have I done the right thing__ is my brother right __probably not __ I know, Are my Parents OK in respite
Alfjess