Hi my dad has vascular dementia my mum has something similar but won't say what it is, my dad has just this afternoon called me after two weeks of silence and not answering the phone or messages to say my mum and him are disgusted in me for posting a adult joke to my face book page which appeared on my mum's news feed not profile , that it was disgusting and encouraging paedofilia?, Which it wasn't he then stated that i was a **** mother to my child and my child's allergies and medical problem were made up and not true, he went on ranting that I was showing off for likes on Facebook and wanted a fast car and big house and was a benefit cheat! I admit I butted in and offered to send him the medical reports from daughter's consultant and my medical records to prove to them I'm not lyeing, and that when we go over to see them i always call first to check if they are both up to a visit from grandchild of not we don't go or if we are busy or ill, nope I'm wrong in keeping her from them and staying on Facebook that she lives in a bubble and their home is dirty? . He then timewarped 8 years and said my home was covered in maggots and never cleaned and they had called social services to try for the last 2 weeks to convince them to let me keep my daughter? My home is cleaned every day dispute how much pain I'm in and I told him that he was sarcastic at that and accused me of talking and seeing my ex which I don't and would never do, I was so angry with him and hurt by what he was saying I asked him what would he like me to say to him, by which he replied don't contact us and hung up, now I would do just that but my daughter wants to see her grandparents she's only 7 and I know in a week , a day or a month they will forget all they have said and I'll be in dog house for keeping my daughter safe from the verbal abuse, I cannot guarantee she will be safe there, they both won't accept any help from anyone and I have tried to get them dementia help many a time again i get abuse for this, and they then say no one will help them and they are not entitled to any help, I'm the closest sibling my brother has almost nothing to do with them and they are him as golden balls do no wrong which is annoying I'm at a listener to do, I know if dad hurts mum I will be there to help mum no matter what but I'm feeling hurt and upset b the accusations about my daughter's medical problems and mine any advice what would be the best course of action?