Thanks all. As you know i was late picking mum up due to my health. Collected her from care home and found her in a distressing state, she couldn't walk, couldn't communicate, doubly incontinent, they had lost her teeth and her face was entirely covered with bruises and cuts. They said one of her legs was giving way beneath her and as a result she had five falls over the course of the week they had her there - they never called a doctor. They advised me to do so! Three of us struggled to get her into my car and they walked away they said 'well we got her in but god knows how you'll get her out the other end'. As a result the GP put her back in hospital the next day, where she still is.
Problems-
- dr. who has been treating for the past 6 months will neither visit mum nor discuss the situation with me.
-I was offered hospital to hospital transfer, but my local hospital won't accept her because of her dementia.
-Both NHS and SS want to transfer her to my home without a care package or OT in place. In other words they want to discharge her into my care and have told me when i get to Kent i can start the procedure of getting a care package and necessary equipment/hospital bed in place. My mother is currently bed bound and unconscious so how can i take her home with nothing in place? Also the hospital doctors told me tonight 'surely i could manage'. Do you think i could without a bed, a hoist, commode etc? I think that's insane but perhaps i'm wrong. Simultaneously social services in Notts are saying it can take a while to adapt my home and social services in kent can't/won't (not sure which) do anything until i get mum to Kent.
-I'm finding that NHS is saying 'can't do' and pointing me to SS, and SS are saying 'can't do' and pointing me towards NHS.
-Simultaneously, they are both repeatedly pressuring me to leave her here in Notts in a local home. I believe this is a cop out but obviously it's the cheapest easiest option for both the NHS and SS.
Am having difficulty finding out what our rights are. Have tried the 'this is what i want to happen to mum' but they're just saying nothing else can be done. Alzheimers advocate suggest i offered alternative hospitals but they won't even consider this option.