Hi everybody 
Haven't been on for ages so thought I would give an update on my mother and myself.
Mother has been back to the psychogeriatrician and I was allowed to sit in on the assessment. I was quite shocked to hear that she didn't know her dob, age, address, the season, where she was and the prime minister. Obviously these aren't questions I would be asking her, but I didn't realise her memory had diminished so much.
He said there had been a major decline and asked what my worries were. I explained the sw had been out and she had refused all offers of help, bar the carer coming in the morning to make her tea and give her the tablets. she wasn't taking them properly either, and had forgotten how to put the telly on or use the phone.
dr said he felt she hadn't capacity to make her own decisions now....quite scary
and said he would get in touch with the sw again.
In the meantime, the sitter who comes tuesday and thursday 7-10 has been given 2 more nights to come - (Sunday and Wed). This means I actually don't have to sit any evenings with her. Believe it or not, I do actually feel guilty about this - i'm never happy ) My mum is fuming about this and is being really awkward about the sitter. She won't get out of the chair in my house for me to take her home, and is deliberately stalling. The poor woman was standing in the rain tonight waiting.
She wants to be in her house, but not with the sitter, she thinks she wants to be in my house, but when it gets dark she wants home so it's a vicious circle. I stay overnight tonight, so she thought I was taking her home at 7 and that was me for the night! Then I get the whole "you don't give a damn about me, etc,etc"
Sorry for rambling...sometimes it's therapeutic to get it all out.
Haven't been on for ages so thought I would give an update on my mother and myself.
Mother has been back to the psychogeriatrician and I was allowed to sit in on the assessment. I was quite shocked to hear that she didn't know her dob, age, address, the season, where she was and the prime minister. Obviously these aren't questions I would be asking her, but I didn't realise her memory had diminished so much.
He said there had been a major decline and asked what my worries were. I explained the sw had been out and she had refused all offers of help, bar the carer coming in the morning to make her tea and give her the tablets. she wasn't taking them properly either, and had forgotten how to put the telly on or use the phone.
dr said he felt she hadn't capacity to make her own decisions now....quite scary
and said he would get in touch with the sw again.
In the meantime, the sitter who comes tuesday and thursday 7-10 has been given 2 more nights to come - (Sunday and Wed). This means I actually don't have to sit any evenings with her. Believe it or not, I do actually feel guilty about this - i'm never happy ) My mum is fuming about this and is being really awkward about the sitter. She won't get out of the chair in my house for me to take her home, and is deliberately stalling. The poor woman was standing in the rain tonight waiting.
She wants to be in her house, but not with the sitter, she thinks she wants to be in my house, but when it gets dark she wants home so it's a vicious circle. I stay overnight tonight, so she thought I was taking her home at 7 and that was me for the night! Then I get the whole "you don't give a damn about me, etc,etc"
Sorry for rambling...sometimes it's therapeutic to get it all out.
